The Political Aftermath of Covid

The post is part of a chapter in my book “The Slow Walk to tyranny”. Learn more about my book by clicking the link.

The effect of COVID-19 on society and the political system can be considered one of the most meaningful destabilizers to Western democracies since the French Revolution and the Civil War in the United States. It changed many things and opened many doors which arguably should have never been opened. The topic is not widely addressed, and I believe it is not understood correctly by many. Nevertheless, it marked a drastic change that has not been concluded or brought to its end. For many people, the Covid period is an emotional black hall that should not be addressed. The emotional weight, the many controversies about its origin, and the real health impact on society are still unclear, and for many, they are better left alone. It was a tragic moment that changed everyone's reality, changed how we see health, and changed our interaction with society, our friends, our neighbours, and our government. While I have a lot to say about the subject in general, for this book, I will concentrate only on the political aspect of this period and how it affected us as a society. I will avoid speculating on medical data and its origin or making judgment calls about people's behaviour. I believe the line that the government crossed in this period is so meaningful and impactful on the structure of democracy that this topic, above all, should be the first and maybe only conversation we should have at this moment.

In a democracy, the relationship between the government and its citizens should be a relationship of service. The government, elected by the people, functions as a management body that should promote the healthy and productive function of the market by overseeing it and limiting it in the form of regulations and laws. The process in which it is done should be straightforward and require a vote of the elected representatives after passing a process of scrutiny and numerous committees formed by professionals, overseen by the ruling system. In a democratic system, government power is theoretically limited by the Constitution and the court, both in its reach and capacities. Preventing extreme oppression of minorities or the takeover of a tyrannical group by manipulating the system. From the citizens' side, democracy promises freedom, private ownership, transparency, and equality in front of the law. Due to its Constitution, the US has a more solid foundation in reference to freedom than other Europeans. Regardless of the clarity and variation of constitutions, Freedom to express oneself, ownership of properties, and the right to defend oneself, work, gather, and move are all rights shared in Western democracy. It is exactly these rights added to equality of opportunities and equality in front of the law that people expect their government to hold and fight for. Not so long ago, many people sacrificed their lives fighting for these values and rights, allowing the Western alliance to win the Second World War and paving the way for a freer, more equal, and prosperous world.

Accountability of the government was always on shaky ground in the West. Most citizens accepted on themselves that a limited amount of corruption existed in the system and lived with it. Some fought it more, and some others less. For many people, the belief in their capacity to replace the government in the next election and the overwatching eye of the courts sufficed. On many occasions, if politicians crossed the line, they resigned by themselves due to social pressures and to avoid public humiliation. Investigative committees have been established over the years to protect the integrity of democracy and keep politicians at bay, promoting government transparency. Over time, a general equilibrium has been established, dictating the relationship between the government and its citizens and their limitations. This general equilibrium and its basic assumptions are what I define as "the Western democratic social contract." Not like the Social contract discussed by many great philosophers (Hobbes16, Lock17, and Rousseau18), which delves into a philosophical argument regarding the original state of humans and how we come to be a society, The social contract I'm referring to is only quasi-philosophical and address only the current status quo, ignoring anything that came before it. Practically, it refers to the set of beliefs all citizens in the early 21st century held regarding their relationship with the government, its role in society, the general structure, and its limitations. I call it quasi-philosophical because this "agreement" or set of beliefs held by the public is originally built upon a constitution and the foundation of democracy as a whole. There is nothing philosophical about it once it is written and integrated into law. On the other side, and as I will show in a moment, it is somehow philosophical because the system and the social contract at its core hold true only as long as the government upholds it. From this perspective, the social contract is not held on equal footing but is based on the belief we all hold as citizens that the government will hold its end of the bargain. After all, the government can break it at any given moment. The power is always in its hands. Furthermore, many of the assumptions held concerning the "Western democratic social contract" exist only because they were never really tested. We just all consciously or unconsciously prefer to believe they are true.

A great example of this is the case in many European countries. In most countries, the people agreed to not hold any weapons, allowing the government to monopolize guns. The assumption underlying this agreement between the citizenry and the government is that the government from its side will never use it against its law-abiding citizens. Practically, the only reason this assumption holds true is just because it has never been proven wrong. The harsh reality is that if this assumption does not hold, Most European citizens will be unable to defend themselves. Hopefully, it makes the Second Amendment of the US Constitution more relevant.

The Social contract creates a status quo and stability for society and the political system. It creates boundaries to the game we are all playing and allows people to concentrate peacefully on their own business. It is a fundamental aspect of a functioning democracy as it is for any other social game we decide to play. It builds trust and promotes healthy collaboration. Covid changed it all. It was a tragic moment that broke the status quo and the social contract. It was neither the Virus nor the potential danger. It was the actions that governments worldwide almost anonymously decided to take and how they executed them. Actions that only a few years before Covid would have been unimaginable in a free democracy. Actions that used to be associated with communist regimes in China. By doing so, they crossed a line by changing the game's rules and breaking the social contract. Many, if not all, governments in the West decided to take an anti-democratic approach, closing by force the economy, locking citizens in their homes, limiting their movements, capacity to work, meet, and mainly having the freedom to choose for themselves. This decision and many other policies that followed were imposed as decrees that never got voted on or have been only in a later stage. A general censorship campaign has started for the sake of "protecting" adult-free people from being exposed to what the government arbitrarily considered to be "misinformation" and "Disinformation." They forced people to vaccinate as the only route to get back limited freedom and imposed draconian measures on all the uncomplying population.

Questions relating to the necessity of these measures and the efficacy of their outcome are not relevant to this discussion. Personal opinions or the answers to these questions do not affect in any way the validity of the problem I'm trying to raise in this conversation. The only relevant aspect of the government's draconian actions is how they were taken and their implication concerning democracy and the existing social contract. It is all that matters in the long run and the source of many problems that evolved since then. A line has been crossed that was never crossed before. It broke the structure we all believed we were living in. Opening the door to chaos, violence, and exponential disintegration of democracy. The main issue with crossing this line is that we never reestablished a new frame or contract that clearly limited the game's rules. We just all understood that we were living in a new reality in which the old rules no longer applied. The terror associated with facing the unknown spread in the system, creating chaos as a lack of trust and violence started to spread. I will even go as far as to say that the violation of the game's rules had such a profound effect on the population that it affected all aspects of life for most citizens, promoting distrust in our neighbours, friends, family, and communities.

One of the most devastating effects of breaking the social contract we all used to hold is that it pushed us all into chaos. This chaos prevents us from framing the reasonable expectation we can have regarding the political power the government can have on us. In short, it broke our belief that we are living in a real democracy that has a system in place to protect both its citizens and itself from tyranny or autocracy. A clear example of this can be seen in how politicians in recent elections addressed their opponents and the extreme belief people hold regarding the potential outcome in case some opponents win. Since Covid, we have seen in several elections, including the one in the US, doomsday predictions about a dictatorial takeover of the right and the left. The fact that citizens are willing to hold these ideas as truth and have a real fear of such a possible future is a clear symptom of the non-existing social contract and the confusion about the validity of the structure of democracy itself. The general chaos built as the game's rules crumbled, turning people against each other. As time went by, politicians became more vocal and extreme in their tone, accusing their opponents of Fascism and tyrannical ambition and even suggesting similarities with Hitler. Elections in many Western countries turn into a fear festival. The outcome of this change is that for many voters, it is no longer a question of the best candidate to promote a better future but avoiding the next dictatorial takeover. Fear is a horrible virus created by our incapability to control the future. It is the outcome of facing the unknown, brought by the realization that the game's rules no longer stand. Without a clear structure, no trust can be achieved, and the most horrible scenarios seem more realistic than ever. The division and extremism all over the West is a direct result of the notion we all have that we are no longer living in what we consider until recently to be a fair, free, and equal democracy.

Another outcome of the breach of the foundation of democracy seen in the post-COVID era is the new outreach of government. As the rules have been broken, a new step into new territories has been made. Questions regarding how far a government can go became a new testing ground for many Western governments. The recent increase in surveillance, the mounting amount of censorship, the open corruption, and the increase in regulation observed all over the West are undisputable. I believe that it is all part of a process taken by the government to test how far they can go.  The fact that it contradicts some fundamental democratic principles does not seem to bother them much, as many understand that the Constitution can be violated or changed. The recent call of the progressive party in the US to cancel the First and Second Amendments is a clear example of this process. The latest step taken in the UK, jailing people for expressing their opinions on social media, is another horrible step that would not be imaginable in a free democracy ten years ago. Governments that discovered their newly obtained power are searching to understand their limits. These concerning developments are playing a major role in the increasing division and polarization of society. The violent action taken by governments sets an example for many young people, legitimizing the use of violence for what they subjectively believe is a just cause. As the rule of law is falling apart, people start taking the law into their own hands. Creating new standards for what is legitimate based on their personal notion of justice.

The shift we all experienced in the COVID period needs to be addressed if we are to reestablish a functioning democracy held by the rule of law. By refusing to address this issue, we are robbing ourselves of the capacity to truly understand the source of our problem. If we are to handle with it and reestablish a stable and fair democratic system that people can trust, clear lines should be drawn again. Not based on the newest standard of tyranny but based on the old values of democracy. The old democracy dictated that the government exists to serve the people, with as little interference possible by the government under rules that allow people to be as free as possible. Without it, we cannot reestablish trust with our government, communities, and neighbours.

The Required Historical Balance between Progressivism and Conservatism

The western society seems to be on are crossroad. One that has not been seen for many decades. Some will even say that we are in a potential turning point, that will change all our values and shake our culture. The clearest sign of this important moment in history can be reflected by the concerning social divide seen all over the west. It varies in its degree in different country but follow the same trajectory. One of self-destruction. If we are to understand how to overcome this divide and rebuilt a society that is walking toward a better future, I believe we need to start by understanding what is standing behind the two opposite camp that can be identified so clearly in our current society and the imbalance threatening our society.

A period of unrest is not new or special. It is part of human history regardless of time, location or social system. It reflects a reality in which the system does not benefit a big part of the population normally created due to a disconnect between the ruling party and its people. All revolutions have sprung from such a tipping point, built slowly and exploding all at once. The reason for the revolution or the violence normally has little to do with the actual problems individual people have, but with a wide enough catalyst that will group all the unhappy people under a specific banner. While historically humanity live under hierarchical social structure with a clear elite controlling power and resources, our current structure is different. It is easy to understand how a king/ tyrant/ or elite group will go too far in the process of maintaining their own power and wealth, building resentment over time in the local population. On the other hand, the current democratic system we developed is more complex. As it promised to fight exactly this outcome.

As I explained in detail in my first book “Back to Ourselves”, democracy as we know it today is a recent phenomenon, dating less than 250 years. The US is the most radical and revolutionary when it comes to its democratic structure. Leading the way and establishing the structure many people in the west take today for granted. Europe took its time to establish the democratic system. Most of the western people are well aware of the French and their revolution, but do not know that many countries in western Europe established their democratic structure well into the 1900’s, while the eastern countries did not reach it until the fall of the USSR – less than 50 years ago. Democracy as we know it today has been built on important values that revolutionized society as a whole. Free speech, equality in front of the law and the authority of an elected changing representatives are all part of the new way western culture built itself toward freedom.

The fact that democracy worked is not obvious in any stretch of the imagination. On many levels, the system can be seen as an experiment, created by progressives that believed in the capacity of society to overcome their differences for the purpose of creating a better future for all its participants. Free market, self-autonomy, equality of opportunity and meritocracies were the foundation structure that allow the west to prosper and give to the world as standard of living never dreamed of few generations ago. As an experimental system, it has many flows. From which the biggest one is how fast can it fall back to tyranny (or at least autocracy). After all, we never had historical evidence that democracy should work. It was built on a vision and the belief that humanity can do it. for a deeper conversation on the historical variation of democracy and the danger of our current system read my post - “Should we save Democracy”).

I doubt many western people can argue with the fact the democracy as a whole is the best way to govern ourselves. While many people do take the system for granted, I have a deep believe the most if not all hold a deep understanding that tyranny, communism or a single ruler system is not superior to democracy. Regardless, looking at our current western society can give one the impression that many people forgot what the idea of democracy fights again and for. It seems a general socialist movement is becoming the dream of many people (especially the young adult), that the fear of tyranny has been lost and replaced by the wish for comfortability and that society as a whole forgot what unite us.

History can be seen as a fight between our need to conserve our security and our wish the evolve and progress. While in any other social system, the control of this process is held by a small amount of people, dictating its general direction, democracy is different. It assumes that humanity can find a balance. One that will support and cherish the culture that brought us to this great reality we are living in, while encouraging progress. It requires flexibility, self-regulation, the capacity to accept the needs of others and the willingness the believe in the good existing in all people. It is unique in the fact that it allows diversity of opinion and protect it for the greater good. Creating a continuous balance between security and exploration.  

After a long thought process, I came to realize that the current divide seen in western democratic societies can be categorize as development of two historically complementing camp, that forgot over time the need each have for the other and dig themselves into extremity. The two camps can be defined as the conservatives and the progressives. For the purpose of this writing, we will define conservatives as people that hold the belief that our culture needs to be preserved at all costs, including but not limited to our history, religion, institution, political and economic structure. The progressives from the other side can be categories as people that hold the belief it is time for a change. Most of the progressives believe that our culture, institution, history and economic structure are old, in urgent need of reinvention for the benefit of aligning with the new open, global, inclusive society we came to be.

The clear and old philosophical difference between what we used to called left and right (democratic and republican) no longer exit and has even flipped. A change that does not help to the general crisis we are currently experiencing. The left parties for decades use to represent the working people, promoting family values, supported peace, promoted liberty and freedom of speech. The right from the other side was traditionally supportive of war for the benefit of control and superiority, economic intervention, support of big cooperation and economic globalism. As of recent, it seems a shift has occurred that can be seen most clearly in the USA. The left became a supporter or war (pushing budgets to Ukraine and Israel), the support for LGBTQ has overshadowed the promotion of nuclear family, a general support of big cooperation and a general collaboration has been clear since COVID, the working people when down in the priority list for the benefit of supporting immigrant and minorities and a strong support for censorship has appeared in the democratic party. From the other side, it is the right that recently talk about controlling deficits for the benefit of the working people, the need to stop promoting wars, express resistance the big corporations take over, preaches family values and liberties.

Like many other people that considered themselves left leaning a decade ago, I came to realize that I’m currently considered a right-wing supporter. This shift can be attributed in some part to my personal development following COVID but mainly due to the political shift mentioned above. Many famous people have experienced the same. Examples are – Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson, Robert F. Kennedy Jr. and Brett Weinstein. Historically it is not the first time the poles are changing in such a manner. The National Socialism and the fascist movement both started as left wing movement and shift in a crucial moment in history to the right under the progressive banner. The best way to understand this phenomenon is to look at the political scene not in terms of left and right, democrats and republican but in terms of Conservatives and progressives. Let me explain you why.

 The power struggle and its outcome between progressives and conservatives is as old as humans. It is the foundation of most of our myth and appeared until recently in all the best movie. It is the struggle between the need to preserve and maintain security in the price of rigidity and possibly structural social limitation vs the need to progress, regenerate and explore in the price of chaos, new and dangerous. Most of our myth are built this way, represented in two different story lines- the first is the story of a rigid and old king (sometime a tyrant) that uphold order and demand discipline that do not benefit any longer the reality. The son or protagonist is normally going in a journey that involves exploration and bravery leads him or her to a direct confrontation with the authoritarian system (normally with the help of an old mage, a magical creature, a snake or a guiding soul). By killing the system and its leader the protagonist creates a new system that has been regenerate and rebuilt based on the progress needed, creating a better environment for all. In this case the story is depicting the need of the progressive side to fight back in case the conservative side went too far and became tyrannical and not beneficial for the people.

The second story normally depict a protagonist that live in a chaotic reality. One in which chaos reign due to a general disaster, prolonged war, invasion, a takeover of an extreme socialist movement or machine that had overturn reality. In this story line, it is the protagonist capacity to follow a path based on his wish to restore order that make him the leader needed. Allowing him to build a following big enough to tame the chaos and reestablish a secure system for society at large. In this case, it is many times his connection to an old civilization, a prophecy, a vision or enlightenment that pushes the protagonist. In many case his mission as part of a resistance or feeling of self-responsibility allow him to win his fight, sometime in the cost of his own life. This second scenario depict a world in which the progressive part of society had gone too far, leading society into chaos. It is a quest toward reestablishing order and save the culture, history or roots of the people that is needed to recreate security for the benefit of all. For a very long and interesting reading on the subject, I will recommend Jordan Peterson book “Maps of meaning”.

While the two powers can go out of balance, it seems most likely that through our human evolution, it is exactly the healthy balance and support of both groups that allow humanity to prosper.  After all, security and familiarity are what allow human to spend time developing new inventions and philosophizing, while it is exactly this progress that render a system progressive and prevent rigidity and tyranny. Meaningful progress requires many time the existence of security and stability. it is the peace of mind, time and resources that allow many individuals and societies to see beyond the frame they are in. Maslo’s hierarchy of needs introduce the idea that as humans, we need to achieve or to obtain certain basic needs before moving to a more abstract and creative aspect of the human capacity. In many cases, it is not the wealth or plenty of an individual that allow him to spend time on creative work and self-development, but the general security and prosperity of the society he lives in. It is the structural culture that create a comfortable environment to develop progress. After all, if one is mainly busy with the daily need to find food, shelter and security for the next day, little time he will have to philosophize or be creative. Survival mode is not productive by itself. It is the existence of security and comfortability that bring forward the human capacity to think, invent and progress.

In their book “the fourth turning “Neil Howe and William Straus present a cyclical pattern in social evolution. One that follow a pattern of construction after a period of chaos, that leads to prosperity, then to an imbalance between the forces in society that brings to chaos (I made some slight adaptation based on the conversation mentioned above). From their side they speak of stagnation that appear after two generation as they do not remember the chaos and mainly enjoy prosperity, leading to a general decline in the third generation that bring chaos. After giving it a lot of thought I came to believe that while the idea “that strong man create good times that creates weak man that in their turn creates bad time” has a lot of sense to it, but ignores the fact we are a political being constantly fighting to establish a balance between the known and secure and the discovery of the unknown which can bring chaos on us all. I came to believe that it is not only the creation of weak man that promote hard time, but the rigidity of a system that push its people to demand progress in the price of potential chaos. As the weak generation is not only weak but ignorant of the dangers and outcome of the chaos they are playing with.

An important aspect of Neil Howe and William Straus theory can be used for this conversation. The reconstruction of societies after period of chaos are led by a healthy mixture of the need to progress with the fear of chaos. In such periods a need to conserve what has been saved from the chaos harmonize with the wish for progress. Pushing society forward. Historically and naturally, it is a healthy combination of the young energetic and curious part of society leading the progress, leaning on the knowledge, experience, calm and conservative older part of society that allow society to prosper. In other historical cases, a group of elder was established and respected. Their purpose was not to lead (as in many cases a young leader was appointed) but to consul and create a frame of healthy boundaries. It is in historical moments in which the young lose their belief in the system or decide that nothing is worth preserving, while the old do not maintain their roles as preservers of security and knowledge that chaos start to appear.

In our current days, it seems we reach a certain extreme. One that will potentially bring chaos and destruction on us all if we do not carefully manage to rebuild balance between the two forces. As I will show in my following articles, I believe that we are currently living in such an imbalance. One that is heavily leaning toward progressivism. In my previous book, “Meaning in the age of absurdity”, I dedicate a full section to the discussion about the relation between the loss of meaning and this dangerous state. Moreover, As I showed in my book, a counter movement is unavoidable. As we have seen in recent elections in the west a strong and extreme right movement is on the rise. Reflecting partly a cry for help from the conservatives in our society. If we are to maintain peace and prosperity in the western culture, the growth of extreme camps needs to be tamed. A new balance should be established for the benefit of future generations and the survival of democracy.

While I have no doubt in my mind that the current system has been hijacked by a group that do not have the interest of the people at heart, it is the growing population of extreme progressives that support it that allow it to prosper. It does not require a degree to understand that western society is in a dire need for change and progress, as the current system do not benefit big part of its population. From the other side, we cannot sacrifice our culture, values and countries just because we are unhappy with the current reality. I truly believe that if we are to find a solution to this crisis a deeper understanding of the two camps, how they emerge and what they represent is needed. Only then we will be able to honestly speak of where we are standing and from there hopefully find a peaceful solution. After all, history has taught us the horrific danger of allowing extreme progressivism and extreme conservatism to take over our societies. While it is clear to me that many people are angry, frustrated and mainly ignorant, I doubt most of us if not all of us truly support returning to such depressing, violent and tyrannical future.

Why Words cannot be a Subjective Matter

In many of my previous articles, the subject of the definition of words and their importance appeared as a secondary underlying issue. It is always in the background of many conversations. Especially the ones associated with progressive ideas. The topic is somehow always there but never discussed directly. Making all other arguments more complex than what they should be. Circling around this matter prevents the conversation from arriving to its a priori problem – What is the role of words in human interaction and society. As many of the issues of our current society have to do with emotions and acceptance, we have been taught that we need to be very careful with the words we use, in order not to offend anyone by mistake. Furthermore, a general weaponization preventing us from having this important conversation is the notion adopted by many that words are violence. A topic I dived into in my last article. I believe that if we are to solve our social malaise, addressing the importance of words and their role in our interaction is crucial.

To fully understand the topic, we cannot avoid defining what word is. While it may sound absurd to some, I find that in many conversations with people, I eventually reach a point where people decide to explain me that I do not have the authority to dictate definitions. Fortunately, they are completely right. Since if I had this authority, they would have it too, making all the conversation a chaotic emotional matter, bringing us nowhere. As I will show later on, it is exactly this point that needs to be tackled if we are to achieve peace, trust, and positive collaboration. The question regarding definition, why we need one we all agree on, and who has the authority to establish it, are the core ideas we will cover here.

The definition of the word “WORD” in the Cambridge dictionary is – “a single unit of language that has meaning and can be spoken or written “. This definition is extremely important as it will allow us to build upon it in all our conversations. By its definition, what makes a word a word is the fact that it has a meaning attached to it. Without a meaning, it is just sound. Let us take it one step further.  Babies make a lot of sounds which are not words.  Moreover, parents learn over time the meaning of certain sounds or combinations of them. By doing so, a new vocabulary is created between the parents and the kid, making these sounds become words, as they have a meaning recognized by all sides. In her early stages my daughter started to call shoes “Titi”. It was one of her first “words”. We all understood what she meant by this “word”. From her side, she was getting her shoes when expressing the word Titi. Reinforcing in her the notion that the correct word for shoes is indeed Titi. From this example, we can extend our definition and say that words are “a single unit of language that has meaning and can be spoken or written, recognized and agreed between at least 2 people “.

This brings us one step closer to our current inquiry, back to the story of my daughter. While she was extremely adorable, after a short period we, as her parents, decided that we should explain to her that Titi is not the right word to describe shoes. Back then, it was a natural conclusion that we, as parents, reached simultaneously. But why? Why was it important for us to explain and teach her the “correct word” to describe shoes? The answer has to do with the word “correct” in the previous question. The notion of the “correct word” vs the “incorrect word” brings us a full circle to the most fundamental question presented at the beginning of this article: What are words? And why their meaning is so important?

Words are a tool of communication that allows us humans to collaborate better, build trust, and create culture. It is by using words that we tell each other stories, express ideas, create agreed-upon frameworks, and tell each other what we need. It is efficient. Furthermore, language helps us overcome violence and chaos. Our capacity to communicate with each other reduces the chance we will all burst into a rage as we have the tools to explain ourselves, listen to others' explanations of their inner world, and negotiate compromises. On many levels, it is language and the correct usage of words that make us humans the controllers of earth, as it gives us a tool to develop abstract thinking, social strategies and the tools needed not kill each other over random frustrations.

There is one important aspect of the usage of words that makes them such a powerful tool. It has to do with the extension of the definition above. For words to work on a scale that allows positive collaboration or for that matter any cooperation, it requires that all the people involved agree and understand the meaning of the words one is using. It is the building block of the successful usage of words and language. If we are to use words in a positive manner or at all, we must agree upfront on what specific words mean. This brings us directly to the concept of “correct words” mentioned before. We will address politically correct later on. For now, let us define “Correct” as the Oxford dictionary defines it:

1.       True or accurate: agreeing with facts: right.

2.      Having no errors or mistakes.

3.      Proper or appropriate in a particular situation.

Based on this definition, in a utilitarian simplistic manner, the “correct word” means – “a single unit of language used without errors or mistakes in the right context, with agreed upon meaning by at least 2 people and can be spoken or written promoting mutual communication.” Eventually, it all comes down to the successful act of communication. The level of easy and effective communication is directly correlated to the term “correct”, as less brain juice is required from one person to understand another person’s sentence if he knows exactly the words and their meaning prior to hearing the sentence.

The easiest way to understand the paragraph above is to understand that the reason we decided to correct my child with regard to the shoe word, is because we aim for her to communicate not only with us but with the rest of society at large. It is her capacity to use accurate words, expressed in the right context, and pronounced without mistakes that will allow her to communicate with people around her. It is what makes words so useful and effective. As I happened to learn, it may take years for children to learn it correctly. A painful process that requires a lot of effort and patience from parents.

Culture is based on common stories that create shared concepts and meaning. An integral part of the creation of these stories is the words that are used to compose them. As we saw above, one of the fundamental aspects of words is that they are understood by everyone in society. By having this structure intact, ease of collaboration and trust can be built. I will argue at this point that what makes words efficient is that they have a simple definition attached to them. The simplicity and clarity of the definition are crucial as they allow people to express themselves accurately with the confidence that the other side understands exactly what they are trying to express. Communication is not an easy business as it reflects the complexity of both reality around us and our inner world. After all, the purpose of words is communication, and the purpose of the communication is to pass a certain message. It is beneficial if the person who is trying to convey the message has a certain level of certainty that the other side understands most (if not all) of it in the first pass. Language and words are a facilitator at its roots, not a reason for complication.

The danger of having multiple meanings to certain words is that it hinders our capacity to understand each other correctly. By allowing multiple definitions/meanings to a single word, the chance of gaps in understanding grows. With it, our incapability to understand each other increases, promoting frustration and lack of trust. The case for variation of definition for a single word can work as long as the different definitions are connected (as shown in the example of the definition of the word “correct” above). On the other hand, when words have no clear definition or a contradicting one, our capacity to communicate and understand each other falls apart, promoting not only alienation between people but increasing the possibility of violence in society. After all, it is our capacity to believe we understand each other and the successful empiric experience reassuring us of that fact that helps us feel connected, understood, and part of something bigger than us.

In most of the advanced languages, a vast vocabulary exists, built over time to express the philosophical, cultural, and psychological depth of its people. The reason for it is simple:  The more words exist in a vocabulary; the more flexibility people have to express themselves accurately. There is a reason that in most cultures, part of each person's education is to learn its vast vocabulary. As humans, we are attracted to people who have the capacity to use words correctly and find it complicated to connect to people who do not understand us. It is the accuracy of the words we use that helps us build collaborative relationships and the belief other people understand our meaning when we speak that builds trust.

The topic of the definition of words has been part of the Western discourse in recent years. It seems the progressive part of our society decided that the best way to blow up our society and eradicate our culture is to start playing with the meaning of words. Creating chaos in society, promoting confusion, and playing with the foundation of what we all knew until yesterday was not only simple but constructive. This movement led by extreme subjectivism (see article)  and a general notion of deconstructionism, brought forward by the “protestant” notion that each person can define words as he pleases. Opening the door to a flood of confusion and chaos.

While this entitled part of our society truly believes they have the right to define words endlessly, their actions mainly promote communication problems and the general loss of meaning. I believe that their push toward this direction reflects mainly the inner chaos that they are trying to push on all of society.  The idea that no one has the authority to define words comes from their incapability to accept society and its culture at large – representing the fight against the limitation society requires from them. It is a reflection of their demand from society to bend to their will regardless of their lack of direction. This dangerous game is a losing one. As we bend our foundation for the purpose of not offending mentally unstable people at best or supporting nihilism at worst.

It is important to understand that what this movement is claiming is not that new words should be invented as new phenomena emerge, but that words should and can be redefined randomly based on personal wimp. We will all agree that any sports team will not work if each player has the capacity to change the rules of the game on the fly based on his needs and feelings. It is an absurd notion that is intuitive. On the other hand, when it comes to the rules of our society, it seems we are willing to accept this absurdity. As I wrote above, there is some hypocrisy involved, as many people who claim other people do not have the subjective authority to dictate definition take on themselves to do exactly the same thing. In other cases, they leave the argument explaining that no definition is possible to start with. A notion that is even more absurd, as they are expressing this notion by using words to start with.

Verbal communication is a facilitator of human interaction. It is a tool that was developed for the benefit of people. It is done by using words that follow very simple rules (as mentioned in our extended definition above) – “a single unit of language used without errors or mistake in the right context, that has accepted meaning by at least 2 people and can be spoken or written promoting mutual communication.” It is the accuracy and simplicity of this mechanism that makes it so fundamental to the human experience. Culture and society at large have been built on this simple foundation, allowing us to evolve and prosper.

As we enter what seems an advanced stage of social collapse, it is important we understand what our tools are to fight it. Order is necessary as it allows us to prosper and build. It gives us the peace of mind we need to find the commonalities we all share and separate the important from the unimportant parts. I have no doubt in my mind that the structure of order can and should change, as time and people evolve and differ from each other. In any case, the need for order is always there. It is the spoiled part of our society that never lived close enough to chaos and forgot its terrible outcome. It is an entitled part of society that does not understand what are the consequences of demolishing everything that gave them the peace and tranquillity they leaned upon in their pursuit of chaos in the first place.

Words are the building block of human prosperity. Our passive capacity to learn definition and use them on a mass scale is what built our culture, heritage, and prosperity. Without a solid and simple frame of communication, violence and chaos will emerge. This pushes us far away from what I believe is the wish of most humans – live in a peaceful and prosperous society that gives them meaning and the capacity to raise and protect their loved ones.  Words are not a game of subjective definitions. Unless you are a person who takes on himself to make the life of everyone around you complicated, a table is a neutral word that describes a piece of furniture with a flat top and one or more legs, providing a level surface for eating, writing, or working at. As long as we all know how to mentally identify a table and call it that way, nobody should really care about the word itself. Furthermore, this passive agreement saves us a lot of mental juice, as most of us have much better things to do in life: fighting a complicated reality, doing the best we can in the complexity of our own existence and hoping for a better future.

The State of Marriage

The state of marriage and its success rate have constantly declined in the last decades. Based on recent data, the marriage rate in the West has felt somewhat 40% over the previous 30 years. While data shows the rate of divorce felt, the data is misleading as it represents a crude number that does not take into account the marriage decline rate. To make it simple, if the number of divorces stays the same while the number of marriages diminishes by half, it means that the true amount of failing marriages doubled. Based on recent stats, half of all first marriages end in divorce, and the rate of second and third marriages is drastically higher.

Moreover, a recent study shows that nearly 25% of kids under 18 grow up in single-parent households in the US. In her book “You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married,” Dana Adam Shapiro wrote that as few as 17 percent of couples are content in their marriage. Vicki Larson, journalist and co-author of “The New I Do, Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists, and Rebels,” cites that six of every 10 married couples are unhappy, and four out of 10 have considered leaving their partner.

This by itself is troubling. It reflects a deep problem in our current Western society. One that affects the level of happiness and productivity of our adult generation and will directly impact the next one. The reasons given for reaching this point vary. Women's liberation, the fall of Christianity, the internet, and the general Disney model of love contribute to this trend. Couple therapy became a flourishing industry together with lawyers who specialize in divorce. YouTube is full of channels that cover all topics related to these issues, giving each unhappy person the exact answer he or she was looking for to validate their perspective. As a person who took part in numerous couples therapies and spent some time searching for answers online, I can attest to that fact. It is an industry of misery, one that is probably based on a lot of good intentions and some profit-seeking.

After hearing many professional talking points about the subject of couple problems and the web of possible solutions, I realized that most, if not all, of the current conversations on the topic are based on the capacity of couples to develop healthy communication. One that will allow them to share and accept each other, feel safe, and become one happy cell. The focus on this topic is normally more demanding from men as, by nature, women have a higher capacity to connect to their emotions, give names to them, and speak about them. Some new development psychology movement has started recently to popularize the topic of attachment problems, promoting the idea that by understanding and focusing on this topic, couples could understand each other better and heal together into a better-shared future.

After giving it some thought, I came to realize that the main issue with our current mating world can be referred to as a “Problem of first principle.” Let me explain. In essence, people today don’t enter into relationships knowing consciously what they are searching for. Most of the generation that grew up on Disney just want to be in love, search for a magical mystic connection, and want to be understood. By itself, those are all noble causes, but there is no clear understanding of what a person wants and needs in a relationship in the long run. Many people will search to be understood and fall in love more for the sake of being in love than anything else. Disney and Hollywood's dream of happiness ever after played a big part in this. Eventually, in most of the movies, the story concentrates on the meeting process, the shared struggle of two people against the world, and finishes at the wedding. Doing so made us all unconsciously programmed with a clear vision of how things should look from the start. We all search for and create it by acting as closely as possible to this model. By doing so, we concentrate on the wrong thing. We choose our mates based on an emotional reaction based on a fictional dream nobody lives in.

Like all the good magic stories, it is a question of time until the magic disappears, and we are left with the reality we put ourselves into. It is part of any long-term relationship. For some, it requires time, and for others, a baby or a misfortune. Eventually, all relationship reaches this point. It is the moment one realizes that the person he is spending his time with is no longer reflecting the image one has built for himself in his head when the magic is up. This happened for several reasons. First, when we fall in love, we do so by creating an image of the other person that is half based on the actual reality and half on what we would like and want the other person to be. It is never really based on the actual person. We develop feelings toward a representation that mixes what we need, dream, and wish for. Secondly, as time passes, people change. It is part of life.

Sometimes, people change in a manner that fits the other person's mental image. Those are by far a minority of cases that do not represent the experience of most couples. This change process repeats itself many times during any long-term relationship, building one on top of the other. In this process, not only does one partner change, but the person itself changes simultaneously. As both partners are changing, it is just a question of repetition before the couple reaches a point in which they can no longer be recognized as the one at the beginning of the process. It is an inevitability of life. Third and most importantly, we are creatures that excel in adapting to living in a world where we get bored very easily. The good and exciting traits that we find so unique in a person become the norm, and we start taking them for granted, making only the problematic aspect of the other person float. This is all part of a normal relationship that started based on emotionally Disney-structured love.

Eventually, after a certain period of marriage, many couples reach a point where they see their partner for who they are. Not because they were hiding it but because the magic of being in love diminishes. In many cases, a person will become highly aware of the other person's true nature and mainly focus on his partner's undesirable traits. It is a kind of Bias to the negative. At this point, sentences such as “You changed so much,” “Where is the person I married,” and “Why are you so…” start to appear. In reality, those are natural stages of any long-term relationship. It is the hard part. The part that actually builds strength and true meaning in the relationship itself. Only by overcoming it can a couple start to create a real relationship built on trust, appreciation, and acceptance. One that is not based on uncontrollable feelings but meaning, shared purpose, and acceptance based on both partners' actual personalities and needs. It is part of any maturation process. One that is not easy requires courage and, as we see around us, fails many times.

Many couples divorce at that stage, while others live miserably together. Circling and spiraling around frustration with a hidden wish, the other side will understand and finally change. I will tell you something right now: your partner will not change and will not become the person you wish him or her to be. Not because he won’t but because he can’t. He or she was never this person and never planned to be. The memories of a different person are probably more of an inner construction of the story you told yourself when you were in the middle of the ecstasy stage of being in love. It never actually reflected the person standing before you – (well, on some metaphysical level). I will add a caveat and say that, in some cases, people actually change over time following a traumatic event. In these cases, pushing aggressively into the face of the person how unhappy the partner is with the change and insisting he should come back to what he was is genuinely destructive and unhelpful.

There is nothing wrong with growing apart. We all experience it in our life. Friends in the early period of life don’t always fit the person we become when we grow up. It is part of life and evolution. Regardless, it should be seen differently when it comes to marriage. Marriage is a different game with a different purpose. Especially when kids are involved. Marriage is a commitment. One that is built to maintain structure for the creation of a family. Divorce without kids is a bureaucratic hustle that should make any person think twice before entering into it if no wish for kids exists. Kids are the reason for the commitment to holding an accountable structure that will allow them to survive and even flourish. We enter into marriage for that purpose, which should be the most important reason to ensure it works well.

When presenting this topic to many people, the argument I encountered many times was – “It is better for kids to have a happy divorced marriage over unhappy married parents.” While I agree with this argument on many levels, it is not what this conversation is about. As parents, we are the first and most important example kids grow into. They absorb and imprint some unconscious ideas. The parents' structure, love, availability, and happiness will guide kids into adulthood and be their north star. Without a true example of responsibility, happiness, and good communication, kids grow up in a world where they are unaware of what a healthy relationship looks like. Moreover, The idea that life is hard but that it can and should be handled with the utmost courage and responsibility is lacking in a divorced family. Concepts such as compromising for the greater good, overcoming difficulties, and the notion that life is not perfect can all be learned from parents who manage to create a healthy and stable household, regardless of all the hardships.

Good things are hard to get and require hard work in the process. Marriages are not different. We can choose the wrong people for the right reasons or the right people for the wrong reasons. Marriage is not about what we did and who we were, but what we have right now and how we can make it work. It is unavoidable that a couple will grow apart at a certain point in time. The needs of both of the people involved will certainly change. It is undoubtedly true that in certain periods, it will feel as if it will be better to be alone than together. But this is not the game played in a long-term marriage. Love is something you build! There are no bad reasons to fight for love. It is hard, demanding, and sometimes seems impossible. But nothing worthwhile is easy, and children are the biggest, if not the only, real responsibility we have in life.

If you find yourself unhappy in your marriage, please remember that it is normal. It happened to all married couples. The difference between the one that survives and the one that fails is not that hardship doesn’t come their way. It is all about their capacity to understand what they are fighting for and their willingness to sacrifice for it. Your partner will not change in the way you wish for just because you do, but if you are lucky, he or she will be willing to listen to your needs, express their own, and find a way to make it better together. In the long run, you deserve a good marriage worth fighting for. And if you don’t find it to be true, your children definitely do. This is the purpose of marriage in the first place.

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Reflection on Extreme Subjectivism

Subjectivism is, by definition, the story we tell ourselves and the way we choose to interact with the objective world. Some stories are held with such a conviction and by such a number of people that it can create the illusion of being Objective. This phenomenon can be observed throughout history. The most common example is religion. It is important to make this distinction from the get-go, as it is one of the fallacies that hold us back from truly having a deep discussion on the subject. This fallacy can be called "the subjective objectivization fallacy." In simple words, it is the idea that if enough people believe that something is true by itself, it makes it true. This can explain why, in our current age, there is a need for people to censor other opinions or shout the loudest opinions.

In numerous conversations, I had recently, the topic of Objectivism came up and ended what could have been a very meaningful conversation. Subjectivism became the hallmark of the West. Sometimes, disguised as liberalism and some other times as self-justification for actions we all knew until yesterday were wrong. Sentences such as "everything is subjective" and "Nothing is really objective in life" are a form of what I call "Extreme subjectivity." As a person who delved into the debt of Nihilism, I can tell that extreme subjectivism is somehow a positive version of Nihilism. Instead of saying – There is no meaning, people moved to – There is no objectivity. It is less depressive and allows detachment from any accountability or social responsibility.

Extreme subjectivity is very concerning as Objectivism is the essence of our capacity to cooperate and hold the key to personal sanity. Moreover, at its core, objectivism is what allows us to cooperate and feel true empathy towards others. As I will argue later, I came to believe that the rise of subjectivism is mainly a defence mechanism for many lost people who do not know what to believe in and who to trust. By adopting subjectivism, they allow themselves to justify and validate their fear and anxiety toward the world around them and their inner world. As I mentioned previously, Subjectivism is just the story we tell ourselves. In many ways, extreme subjectivity reflects a lack of story. It is a syndrome of people who lose belief and do not find a solid reality to hold onto. By adopting this philosophy, a defence mechanism is built first toward the world and then towards one own feeling.

Before delving into the reason for the rise in subjectivism and its outcomes, I would start by proving simply that Objectivism exists and that subjectivism, at its core, cannot exist without Objectivism. At its essence, subjectivism is a byproduct of Objectivism. Never the other way around. I will not argue at any point that there is nothing subjective. Oppositely, a big part of our inner world is subjective. It is part of consciousness and human existence. Regardless, Objectivity is the base of life and the human experience. It is only because Objectivism exists that subjectivism could develop in the first place. The belief that nothing is objective or that subjectivity is at the core of everything is not only wrong but also very dangerous. Lies require Objectivity to lean on. Lies can be invented only because we agree on some basic ideas or events. Language is based on Objectivity as it requires we all agree on what we describe when using words. Relationships require it as well. Without trust, we will never be able to establish relationships. Shockingly, trust cannot exist without a fundamentally objective environment we agree upon.

For those who lack patience, here is the conclusion of this article- Subjectivism, in essence, is interpretation. It is the story we tell ourselves. At the core of subjectivism exists a deep requirement for Objectivism. As interpretation needs events to happen in the first place. Everything that has to do with explanation, opinion, or ideas is subjective. Our inner world is an endless interpretation mechanism, making it subjective at its core. Regardless, no interpretation can exist without actual events, and no real-life events need interpretation to happen or evolve in the first place. Extreme subjectivism is created from a lack of frame or data.

A simple example will be as follows – If we are to observe a single ball floating in empty space, all we will be able to say is that there is a ball and that it is floating (objective reality). We cannot say if it is moving or in which direction, as we are missing a frame of reference. By introducing a second ball into the empty space and making them move slowly toward each other, different people will interpret the movement of one of the balls differently. Some people will say both of the balls are moving, some will say that only one is moving, and others will say that the other is moving (this is subjective). From the moment a third ball fixed in space is introduced, we will directly go back to Objectivism, as the directional movement will be clear by having three balls.

Now, let's start with proving the undeniable existence of Objectivism. First and at the most basic level, Objectivism can be defined as an external truth that will remain so regardless of who perceives it and his interpretation. It is a fact (very important word here) that is undeniable and predates any interpretation (Interpretation at its core is a subjective explanation of fact). Let's start with the most obvious examples of Objectivism. We are all born into this world and die at a certain point. Theories about where we come from, where we go after, and the potential of all of this being a simulation do not contradict this objective fact. Gravity is another objective fact. Since we remember ourselves on this earth, when we let something go in mid-air, it falls to the ground. The explanation of how or why is not relevant to this objective truth. The last example I will use for the most basic level of objectivity is that we all wake up in the morning regardless of our wishes or efforts. This is true for all animals on earth.

Just to reinforce the fact that objectivity exists, let's name a few other first-level examples – We all have a body, we need water and oxygen to survive, the fire burns, water is wet, we grow older and not younger, A lion is physically stronger than us, a cheetah run faster than us, we are all having a shared experience, there is a limit to the strength we can use in any given moment and time, we cannot physically be in two separate physical locations simultaneously, We cannot pass through walls, alcohol, and coffee affect our body, and finally I'm not you, and you are not me (It is a basic definition – we will arrive to it later on)

It is very important to separate the concepts of interpretation and objectivity. Having multiple possible explanations or none does not make something less Objective. It means our collective consciousness didn't come into agreement about the phenomenon. One of the most important things about first-level objectivity is that it is above the human capacity to explain it and doesn't need it to start with. I hope that at this point, we can start to agree that objectivity exists. If one still insists objectivity doesn't exist, it probably reflects an inner struggle of the person with his own pain rather than anything close to an intelligent, truthful conversation.

The essence of learning is based on Objectivism. It is a process in which one acts and adjusts based on external feedback. Babies learn how to speak by getting positive feedback from their surroundings. Any hypothesis requires external validation. It is a fundamental truth in the human experience. Social cues are part of this process. A person who decides to dress strangely will immediately get feedback from his friend (if he has any real one). Our capacity to be good at something is evaluated by the grade and acceptance of our society, based on an objective comparison. It is just how it works. Now, to be clear, the feedback we get in many cases is based on the subjective opinion of other individuals, which doesn't make the feedback by itself an objective truth. Practically, it is the act of feedback that can be defined as objective, while the content of the feedback can sometimes be subjective. The last statement is proof of the existence of objectivity and the line between objectivity and subjectivity without cancelling each other. For those of you willing to delve into more philosophical arguments, I will add that subjectivity is an objective human experience.

At this point, we can all agree that not everything is subjective. As you can see, it is not an argument that takes too long to prove or too much intellectual power. Regrettably, many people in the West still hold onto their beliefs even after being confronted with these simple arguments. As it bothered me greatly, I think that "Why?" is an unavoidable question that needs to be asked. The answer to this question is part of the solution for many social problems I raised and will continue to talk about in my blog. It is a phenomenon that should not be ignored, as it represents one of the biggest problems we face in the West. The simple answer is that we lost trust. The mixture of hyper information online, with the miserable performance of our politicians, institutions, and economists, broken family structures, and globalization that do not benefit its people are all part of what creates the "Extreme subjectivism crisis."

Young people are subjective in their essence. They cannot perceive a world in which they are not in its center. The raging hormones, lack of experience, and the brain's unfinished development all play a part in it. For young adults, adopting subjectivity is the default. Objectivity at this stage is adopted by many young adults when it proves to work and is favorable for them. To get over this notion, many young people need a trustful and guiding system that will walk them through the process of accepting objectivism or a terrible misfortune that shows them how much objectivity there is in life regardless of what they wish and believe in. They need a guide and help to make them not only accept but also understand what to do with a world in which their subjectivity means little in real terms. It seems that one of the processes that involves passing from childhood to adulthood involves a process in which a person understands the boundaries between subjectivity and objectivity. It is a process that allows people to agree on the general terms of the game we are all playing. An understanding that feelings are a subjective experience that shouldn't always be acted upon. This process is what allows society to function and a general framework of trust to be built.

The growing extreme subjectivity movement can be seen as a refusal of many young adults to grow up and a regression of many adults who lost trust in their beliefs. As I mentioned, I believe this movement is a cry for help on a societal level. It is the lack of new heroes, the demonization of our old ones, and the broken value system in the West that prevent people from handling the uncomfortable truth that the world is indifferent to their interpretation. In their book –"The Coddling of the American Mind", Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt explain that it is our wish to protect our kids that raised a generation of people that cannot handle life and its requirements. I will add that it is a broken system of values and the lack of tools available today that hinder this important step.

Extreme subjectivism is a reflection of our breaking society. Not because we don't have enough, but because we are having too much. In my conversation about individualism, I showed the terrible effect of the belief that society's main purpose is to serve individuals' self-fulfillment. These two topics are directly related to each other. They both reflect the lack of capacity of individuals to integrate in an healthy manner into society. There is a lot to be said about the fact that governments and the state of most economies in the last 20 years were not favorable toward their individuals. That trust in our "Expert" system broke down in the last 5 years, and an optimistic approach toward the future is hard to maintain. Regardless, hiding behind extreme subjectivism is not the answer we currently need. It is a retracement of all participants into themselves, bringing the degradation of trust, healthy collaboration, and elimination of the tools needed to create a better future.

Life is hard, unfair, and sometimes beyond our capacity to understand. It is just how it is. On the other side, this world we are living in is a world that allows us to build, collaborate, and prosper if we choose to do the hard work. The first step in the path is to agree on fundamental ideas such as where we are, what we are doing, what our goal is, and how we call things. It is our objective commonalities that unite us. It is the objective world that teaches us and the basic understanding we share that builds trust. Understanding the relationship between Objectivism and subjectivism is a crucial step we need to take. Without it, collaboration and trust cannot exist. The consequences of choosing to stay in such a predicament are clear – Instead of working together on bringing us all a better future, we will continue screaming in fear at each other, arguing about questions as "What is a woman?". And between us….who in his correct mind really wants that?

The Dark Side of Individualism

Individualism is an interesting topic debated in philosophy for millennials. At its core, it addresses the balance that exists between the individual needs of each of us versus our need to be part of a society. It is undeniable that each of us has its own needs, and at our core, we all prioritize our own survival. Regardless, the act of self-sacrifice for one cause is a known phenomenon observed throughout history, culture, and race. This human tendency reflects how philosophical we are as humans. It shows how the end goal we believe in can override our animalistic code. Making it one of the most important motivators of human actions. The balance between our individualistic needs and our need for a social life is crucial to human evolution, as it creates different variations of social structures and constitutions. After a long reflection, I came to believe that this topic can explain the essence of the shift we currently see in the West. A shift that seems to bring us all more suffering and misery than Happiness and prosperity.

Evolution is a natural and unavoidable process in nature. It is emotionless and persistent. The outcome of this process is no more than a natural advancement of one unit from the one that came beforehand. As a product of the present, we assume that evolution is positive as it brought us everything we know today. Practically, this notion is wrong, as evolution and its wrong turn brought the extinction of societies and species. At its core, the process of evolution tries variations that survive by luck, strength, or momentary circumstances. One of the downsides of this process is that, in some cases, a variation that survived based on the first or the last options moves forward and continues to evolve based on an unproductive or even defective base. The fact that history is a continuation of fallen empires and extinct predators is a validation of this point.

The current state of the West is in decline and seems to accelerate in the last decade. The signs are everywhere. As I will cover here, I believe that the main reason for it is a defective aspect of the human experience that survived and was built over time. Not like other animals in nature, we are a philosophical being. One that is led by proactive motives and abstraction. The argument I will present here is that the main reason for the fall of the West has to do with the loss of meaning and the twisting of our core values. The first value I will address is Individualism and the role it plays in maintaining healthy individuals and society as a whole. If I am to put it simply, I genuinely believe that our current society and its leading social movements are driven by an absurd end at best or, in many cases, no end at all. Let me explain it before entering into several examples. If we are to look at the dominant social movements of the early 21st century, we will discover two motives that encompass them all. Extreme Individualism and hatred toward the past.

Extreme Individualism is a new type of Individualism. It is different because it took the original concept and turned it on its head. From Aristotle's time, we could all agree that the good of the individual is what describes the good of society. Conversations on this topic have been numerous throughout history. The commonality of all was that while humans are, first and foremost, individuals who take care of themselves and their needs, they are all part of society. In this view, humans need society and have personal interests in ensuring they play an active role. While many philosophical arguments debate why humans need society and the best way to organize it, all agree on one principle. We are all part of society, as it is a need we all share. It is an important point, as by accepting it, we agree that the good of society is related to our individual good.

Aristotle expresses in several books the concept of happiness related to the question of goodness. Based on his writing, Good can be divided into Primary good and secondary good. To simplify it, the first is done for the sake of itself, while the other is done for something else. In his view, there is only a Good that is categorized as primary worth doing if we are to aim for Happiness. This Good is what we should all aim for and the only path to Happiness. This distinction is crucial to this conversation as it lays down a fundamental idea the state that not all our motives are equally contributing to our Happiness.

Additionally, he makes a very important remark. He states that a society is a reflection of its individuals. Highlighting the notion that a society is a bottom-up structure, not a top-down one. By doing so, Aristotle paints an essential picture with several fundamental points we can extract relevant to our conversation. The first is that Happiness is achieved based on the end goal one has. Secondly, Only an end goal defined as a primary good can truly bring us closer to Happiness. Lastly, it is the Happiness and success of the individuals of a society that make it prosperous, not the opposite. An important additional conclusion we can reach from the statements above is that a society can reach prosperity and Happiness only by having its individuals live and act based on an end goal based on the primary good. I will add here that I believe that only by having a primary good shared by all the members of a society can a harmonious and prosperous society be developed. It allows collaboration and trust to develop naturally and hold for a long period.

Many years after Aristotle, the Economist declared that humans do things from two different motives, diminishing suffering and pleasure. There is a big difference between the two, as one is based on avoidance and the other based on creation. The distinction between diminishing suffering and promoting enjoyment is an important aspect of individuals and society as a whole. Diminishing suffering on many levels can be seen as a reactionary secondary good, as it describes actions that aim to handle momentary discomfort for the sake of another cause. On the other hand, actions done for the purpose of promoting Happiness can be categorized as proactive primary Good, as they are done for the sake of itself. The difference between proactive and reactive is crucial if we are to understand Individualism and what it promotes. Animals are reactive as they only and always act due to momentary urges, while humans have the unique capacity to act proactively. From this philosophical point of view, humans who act without an end goal and are motivated based on secondary goods are no better than any other animal.

Until recently, we could all agree that on an individualistic level, we all shared a clear end goal - survive, multiply, and make sure the process continues. It worked well for all of human history as it made humanity the innovative creature that finished ruling Earth. The fact that humans had a common end goal created healthy societies that survived over time. Those values were clear for millennia to all humans regardless of gender, race, and time. First, the creation and survival of one family and kids were the highest purposes we all aim for. Secondly, all humans understand the importance of the creation and maintenance of a strong society for the sake of security and productivity. Finally, individuals understood that collaboration was needed, led by the most capable part of society. The population that did not follow these principles felt various forms of tyranny, corruption, or general degradation.

One of the most remarkable developments based on these values is Capitalism. As the term is not clear to many people today, we will need to start by defining it. Capitalism is an economic system based on values of property rights and free trade in a nonaggression framework that allows individuals to prosper as single units while benefiting society and its actors as a whole. At its core, it is a direct positive evolution demonstrating the balance between each person's needs and the maintenance of society that protects them. If we are to look at this philosophy by identifying its end, it could be said that the main claim of Capitalism is that the Happiness and success of each individual is what makes a good or thriving community. This idea works amazingly well when applied based on an end goal defined as the wish for a prosperous society. After all, the exercise of Social-economic practice is society itself.

The balance held in Capitalism is not obvious and has been challenged many times at the end of the 20th century. All sorts of socialism can be defined as trying to tilt the delicate balance between Individualism and society toward the latter. In their view, society is more relevant than its individuals, their need, or their capacity. Different forms of socialism approached Capitalism from different angles, but eventually, they all had the same philosophy in their heads. Individuals left free will not benefit the majority of the population or society. As history has shown us, socialism has been the main cause of death in the last 100 years and the denominator of massive starvation, mass homicide, and general social degradation.

The other side of this socialism can be described as extreme Individualism. It holds the notion that the individual is not part of his society but above it. This new type of Individualism is different from anything we have ever tried. Not because it promotes the individual in society but because it turns the fundamental assumption of society on its head. It dictates that each human's main and only end goal is the maximization of their self-fulfillment. It is the most and only relevant aspect that matters. The definition of self-fulfillment is based on a subjective approach of a specific individual, reflecting his momentary values and feelings. Its direct implications are very straightforward. For people who hold this belief, whatever and whoever is not directly contributing to the realization of one individual's self-fulfillment is deemed an obstacle that should be avoided. This kind of Individualism detaches the individual from society and, in many cases, positions him against it. As we will see, this kind of new philosophy has dire second-order consequences seen worldwide. Making it one of the most important philosophical shifts of the last centuries.

The fundamental concern associated with his movement is that it shifts the end goal of individuals from a social one to a self-centric one. Moreover, it should not be ignored because, at its core, it redefines primary and secondary Good. While old philosophies were based on the idea that humans' final goal is the success and survival of society itself. This new movement places the individual himself and their needs before society, making it the highest good. In this world, society's role is to serve the individual instead of requiring the individual to integrate and be a productive part of it. It promotes need and feeling instead of capacity and intellect. It requires blind obedience based on social terror instead of promoting an open, constructive conversation based on multiple ideas.

The flip between the two principles becomes clear when observing the outcomes and actions of people driven by Extreme Individualism. Money, status, and dominance are hailed by people who hold this set of values. Topics such as politically correct speech, doomsday prevention, and deconstruction are the leading social topics promoted as the primary and urgent problems we all have to solve. Society and its health are never discussed as it is a secondary consequence of the needs of its individuals. Money, careers, and status are secondary goods as they are done for the sake of achieving something else. Regardless, in the extreme individualistic view, they are positioned as primary Good and hailed for the sake of themselves. The creation of a family, the purpose of knowledge, and the strength of a nation are seen as archaic obstacles that should be avoided.

Moreover, doomsday panic and politically correct speech are both reactionary movements. Demanding the shift from proactive social activities for the sake of satisfying the lowest and more psychotic denominator of our society. Extreme Individualism, at its core, is anti-social, instead of categorizing Happiness as derived from a shared success defined by the creation of a healthy family and society. It positions momentary self-realization and diminishing suffering of its weakest part as its main goal.

One of the side effects of running a society in that way is that its social failure requires a social net to support the breaking apart of society. The purpose of this social net is to feel the holes unavoidably created by diminishing societies, with broken families and a lack of support for individuals when reaching old age. After all, divorced families require more resources to raise a child, single kids cannot support both aging parents, and society does not function without unity. If correct, the increase in the welfare state and the demand for more of it by younger generations is not a mistake or an exaggeration but a real necessity to maintain a falling apart society.

Extreme Individualism can be seen in several parts of society today. One of its most terrifying consequences can be seen in relation to the population decline trend. I have no doubt in my mind that the drop in the birth rate, the rate of marriage, and the huge number of single-house families are all connected to it. The decline in the birth rate is a very concerning trend with a clear and unavoidable end. Making it one of the most urgent and alarming trends of the early 21st century. While factors such as improved education and the liberation of women can be attributed to factors that affect this trend. I came to believe that the most important factor is the introduction of the values of extreme Individualism to the West.

The distaste toward Nationalism is another reflection of extreme Individualism. At its core, Nationalism requires the sacrifice of one toward his society. Positioning people who are willing to sacrifice their time, resources, and lives for their heroes. On many levels, it contradicts the notion that self-fulfillment is the most important aspect of life. Moreover, putting the well-being of society before one own needs requires sacrifices. In many cases, it requires that one contribute his time and resources toward this goal. An act that requires, on any level, to hinder the selfish self-fulfillment of individuals.

As I mentioned elsewhere, humans need a purpose. Without it, our inner world collapses into itself. I believe that the rise in suicide rate, depression, anxiety, and general unhappiness can all be related to the fact that the philosophy of extreme Individualism dominating our current society is not only wrong but empty of any true content. It leaves people lonely, angry, and frustrated. It is a philosophy with a twisted end goal that preaches to hate everything that makes us good as individuals and as a society.

To prosper, humans need to believe in something bigger than themselves. The pursuit of Happiness cannot be simply the elimination of suffering. Family, society, and nations have been the cornerstone of human advancement since we remember ourselves for a reason. Extreme Individualism concentrates on promoting secondary goods while ridiculing all primary goods ever worth fighting for. By adopting it, we are all racing to the bottom of self-destruction and misery, led by the lower denominator of our society. With all honesty, we cannot allow ourselves to live a life dictated by a minority of angry and unhappy individuals just because they scream louder. Eventually, we need to realign our end goals. Only by doing so can we hope for a better future. A society needs strong individuals who have the freedom to express themselves, reach their goals, and provide for their future families. We all have more in common than we think. Our society lost itself in the pursuit of Happiness. We concentrated so much on how we wished things to be that we forgot why we were here in the first place. I believe that if we are to truly address our problems, we don't need to look far. We just need to ask ourselves, why we do what we do. It is all about the end goals we have guiding our daily actions. 

The Digital Bias Paradox

In this conversation, I will present what I call the “Digital Bias paradox.” This concept is affecting our lives both on individual and social levels. I define it as the beliefs formed and held by people that consciously or unconsciously prioritize information obtained from social media regardless of the lack of evidence or clear contradictions they observe in their actual physical day-to-day life. People immersed in this bias will try to impose their beliefs on society to resolve the dissonance emerging from this paradox. Usually justifying their set of beliefs on how they feel or how they think the world ought to be.

We are living in unprecedented times. One of the most important developments of our age is the development of technology. While it has many positive aspects as a tool we can use. Like any other tool, we should be aware of its negative aspects. Social media is one of those. It allows us to connect to people worldwide while being exposed to a stream of information like never before.

Social media has two different aspects. The social part and the information part. In its early days, Facebook allowed people to stay in contact and share their lives with people they did not have the time or capacity to meet. Over time, and with the development of the platforms and their algorithms, our feeds have evolved to be much more than that. It became a new channel to absorb the news and shape our worldview.

Humans are living in a simulation. Not the one presented in the matrix, in which we are all sleeping in a water container, dreaming of an alternative reality and waiting to wake up. But a simulation in the sense that we see only what we are trained and can see. The human experience is highly selective. Out of the endless information that reaches our senses, we filter most of it and concentrate on a tiny part. It is part of the human existence. We are built this way. It is not a matter of our wish but a limitation of our capacity. This mechanism is a reinforcing loop. We see what we search for, and that creates ideas in our head that guide us to look for more information of the same type. Over time, it makes a worldview that unconsciously guides our senses toward a certain reality. Which, over time, creates what we call our belief system.

This is a known process that takes a lot of energy from us. In many cases, and especially when tired, we prefer to lean on trustworthy sources. In ancient times, it was the oracles or our leading figures. With the development of Monotheism, it became the priest and the bible. Recently, it became the expert. Advertisers know this and take advantage of it. Hitting the soft spots that allow them to manipulate our thoughts into buying whatever they are selling.

Social media has taken a new role in our lives. It replaced, in many cases, the experts and the legacy media. This development is due in many to the loss of trust in our government and authority while lacking true and admirable figures to follow in the older generation. Many young people have shifted and consumed most of their information from social media. Putting aside the clear effect it has on the capacity of young people to focus or read in-depth articles. One of the most important effects of the deployment of social media and the way we consume it is the importance this tool has in shaping the way we see the world. To truly understand how and why, we must get familiar with a concept called "Recency Bias. In simple terms, Recency bias is the tendency to place too much emphasis on experiences that are freshest in your memory—even if they are not the most relevant or reliable. This is one of the most important aspects of the change we see around us and, in my opinion, the main reason for most of the social and psychological chaos we all experience.

The algorithm running social media aims for one simple thing – To make you stay longer on the platform, like and comment as much as possible. As it requires excitement, the algorithm will lean toward showing us extreme cases of negative information. It is not the algorithm; it is us. As humans, we are more attracted to negative news and outrageous topics. After all, if everything is good and normal, it is not really interesting. We can ponder this issue and try to understand why, which is an important question. But one that is irrelevant to our current conversation. Eventually, social media evolved to be more of a tool for media than any tool for socialization. It is there to show us two things: First, it reinforces what we already believe in by showing us more data to make us feel nice, and second, it enrages us by showing us data that will make us protest and be angry.

As time passes, social media and phones have become our main source of worldview-creation tools. After all, for most people, real life in their house, social area, and city is less exciting, less accepting, and, in many cases, just boring. It is not a bug of our current way of life; it is an important part of human existence. Boringness is a sign of security. It is a characteristic of leisure. Free time and peace are needed for philosophy and personal development, and most importantly, they motivate to improve.

As we all plunge into social media and make it our main point of reference and self-worth, a few interesting things seem to happen to us. First, we become dopamine addicts who cannot control ourselves. It is an addiction like any other. Secondly, it promotes depression. This happened for two reasons – the fact that we become more isolated and the unrealistic role models we are exposed to. Thirdly, and the most relevant point to our conversation, it promotes anxiety and hate. It is fundamental to understand why this happened. As I believe it is one of the most unlooked aspects of social media. The short answer to it is this – It expose us to the worst of human experience all at once and reinforces the notion that the world is a bad place and that there is nothing we can do about it. Additionally, the most outrageous ideas are the most popular, as the algorithm sees any negative comment as a reaction to push the post forward.

I believe a few examples are needed if we are to fully understand this point. I had the chance to have a fascinating conversation recently with an intelligent woman I hold in high regard. In this conversation, I've been explained that men are toxic and dangerous. When I asked, based on what data these statements are reinforced, the woman in question pointed out that in Italy, while all crimes are in decline, the homicide of women by men is steadily rising. Since it is data we are discussing, I checked this claim rapidly and discovered she was right. As I admitted the validity of her point, the validation gave my lovely friend a backwind and a sense of rightfulness. Although there is no doubt homicide is evil, and especially the one of women, I noticed a very interesting thing in the data. The total amount of women killed by men is indeed rising, but it is under 200 a year. When pointing this point out, I noticed a dissonance in my friend's eyes, as she understood I had something to say that would contradict her point.

Her immediate reaction was to double down on her worldview. She explained to me that men need to be stopped and put on a leash, and they are all violent and see women as their personal possessions. A claim I found to be unreasonably wrong. After listening to her, I decided to raise an obvious point. In Italy, there are currently around 57 million people, of which around 50% are men. If we consider that two-thirds of these men are above 16 years old (the number is higher), that makes around 20 million potential violent murderers. At this point, I concluded that even if the total number of men killing women would be 200, that represents 0.001% of the male population. This dry statistic put my friend in a difficult position. As she started to understand where I was going with it.

 Her main problem and the reason for the rising dissonance in her head can be easily understood. In many ways, it is a clear example of the "digital bias Paradox." In her existence, and thanks to social media trends, her framing on the topic was completely different. After all, if 200 women are killed a year each on a different day, it would feel like men are killing women almost every day. A notion that could be terrifying for any woman. On many levels, it should make women worried, and it is a subject that must be addressed. The reason I pointed out this data is not to argue that we should take lightly violence toward women. My motives were in no way aimed toward defending these terrible men who probably see women as their property. The purpose of my point was simple: regardless of how it feels, the conclusion deducted from her social media experience is wrong and very troubling.

The reason this conversation troubled me to that extent was that my friend truly believed with all her heart that men are toxic, violent, and possessive based on 0.001% of men's actions. The fact was completely hidden from her. Practically, she condemned 99.99% of men as monsters without any justification. Additionally, if taking into account that 1.5% of the population are considered to be psychopaths. The fact that such a small number of them actually act upon it can be seen as a real reason for optimism. My point here is neither to show ignorance nor to attack women. I can truly understand how the structure of social media built over time a twisted reality in my friend's head. Unfortunately for her, for me, and all men out there. Her conclusion is logical if considering the simulation she was forced into.

Another example of the tragic effect of the Digital bias paradox can be seen in all that has to do with Global warming. The state of natural disaster is another fantastic example of the social media bias I encountered in recent years. To make it simple, it can be seen by the perception that people have about the number of natural disasters and its related deaths. It is easy to understand how some people can hold the view that both has increased drastically in recent years. It works on the same principle mentioned above. As we are now exposed to all the natural disasters occurring on earth and see them on our phones, the notion that they are increasing is understandable. Most of the people I spoke with are alarmed and have adopted the narrative of global warming disaster looming and developing. Most, if not all, believe that we live in an unavoidable global looming disaster. One that we don't do enough to avoid. It is a hard notion to live with as it is very alarming and simultaneously paralyzing as there is little that can be done in the matter. A lot of social anger and general frustration is based on the belief held by people that other human beings are not doing enough to tackle this imminent issue that puts all of us in danger.

Lucky us, this notion is wrong. Practically, the number of deaths from natural disasters has diminished drastically by over 90% in the last 80 years, and the total amount of natural disasters did not increase at an unprecedented pace if looking at the data for a long enough period. Regardless, the issue of global warming exists and should be addressed. However, the perception of it due to social media is unrealistic and destructive. It prevents us from having a mature conversation and doing what humans do best- Finding new solutions to our problems.

In recent years, a new term has been thrown around by the left liberals. They called it "Lived experience". While we can all have only a lived experience, the notion is worth considering. Eventually, these words are used by the youngest generation living in a digital world to express their personal overexposure to the worldview imposed on them on social media. In other words, what they are trying to say is that if taking into account only their emotional eyebrows, their exposure to terror is relentless and frightening. In many ways, it is a cry for help. Not one that should support everything they feel, but one that will assert their confusion and give them tools to overstep from the digital to the real world.

We live in a world that is shaped not based on reality but on what we perceive to be the virtual reality we are exposed to. The nature of this reality is scary and isolated. It is a worldview that pedestalizes crime, disasters, and misfortune to catch our eyeballs. The tragedy in all of it is that we didn't evolve sufficiently in the technological era to understand it. Life online is playing a vicious game against our well-being, both personally and socially. It pushes us into forming a worldview and a belief system that leaves us isolated, depressed, and anxious. The reality is that most people living on earth are good people who wish to live a happy life surrounded by people to love and be loved. Most people want and need to be part of a society and aim for peace, justice, and the flourishing of their society. Unfortunately, most of the people currently hold terrible beliefs due to their lack of capacity to relate to the life they are living instead of the world they are digitally exposed to.

A real need emerges in our society to address this topic and understand how to handle it correctly. Society is currently self-destructing due to thoughts and beliefs shaped by an algorithm that does not have our best interests at heart. Not because it is evil but because he is indifferent. It is true that a small minority of bad people exist, that some disasters happen in the world, and that people are unnecessarily dying every day. But it is not by generalizing all of us to the lowest denominator of our kind, nor by terrorizing ourselves based on the margin that we will be able to have a serious and productive conversation about how to create a better future.

Reflection on Neo-Feminism

The development of the feminist movement is relatively young, Starting in the 60s. The number of “waves” associated with the movement vary based on one world view, but the general agreement is that some “waves” were established, each adding a new layer to the complexity of the fight towards woman's equal right and liberation. Since its inception, society and women have walked a long way, achieving improved status, freedom, and equality decade after decade. Women in the beginning of 2010 achieved everything the first feminists dreamed of. Most women in the West have achieved equality, freedom, and the pursuit of happiness. Making it one of the most successful and significant campaigns of the last 70 years. Women born in the 80s (meaning all women under 40) grew up in a world that allowed them to chase their dreams, pursue their careers, control their capacity to reproduce, and stand proudly under the slogan of a “strong, independent woman.” On all objective levels, these achievements could be the end of the “struggle” of the feminist movement. It is true that the reality was not perfect and that some small margins had to be aligned. But to the extent of the movement in general, the primary goals have been achieved, and all that was left to do was to maintain it and build together (men and women) a better world for ourselves and our children.

Unfortunately, like many other overstretched campaigns, after achieving its goals, most reasonable people went home to celebrate their achievements, while a group of fanatics stayed behind, frustrated and confused. This phenomenon is not unique to this movement. It can be observed in all levels of long struggles. After all, the fanatics dedicated themselves to the cause. Making it the center of their world and, in many cases, their source of income. They never thought about the question of “the day after .”After all, these people enjoyed the process so much that it became their endgame. Now that it is over, they have a serious problem. Their meaning in life is gone, and their income is with it. These fanatics get marginalized in many cases. They create niches and retreat into their own communities. Over time, they reintegrate into the new reality and find joy with their friends and families. Some never do. They are the “victims of peace”. They are the price society pays for overstretching a campaign. In the case of feminism, the movement went for so long and had such a success, that entire social structures have been erected for the cause. The demolition of these structures would be so significant for such a big group of fanatics that it couldn’t be done naturally. The war for women's liberation couldn’t finish just like this. It had to continue. A new, stronger, more abstract, and demanding “wave” was needed. But what can they ask for? What is there more to fight for when everything is going in the right direction?

The answer came fast in the form of the “4th feminist wave”. After listening to their claim for a while, I realized something very important. This wave is different than any feminist movement that came before it. At its core, it is a reconstructionist movement. It places men and women not as two units that complete each other but as two camps fighting for domination. At their core, the movement demands not only to have but be everything man “can be” while trying violently to explain that men should be less than what they “Want to be .” I’m calling it the Neo feminism. On many levels, I believe it is the worst development that the first wave of feminism could ask for. Its contradiction and consistency is far from anything woman in the 60s and 70s were fighting for. Making it probably the leading cause of the potential destruction of everything good women fought for decades. I believe that most people miss these changes due to the continuity of the movement and its name. They associate any woman movement with its original feminist movement. It is a tragedy for many, as it prevents us as a society from having a real discourse about the movement's outstanding achievements and makes us blind to the destructive forces leading the current Neo feminist movement. As I will cover in the rest of this article, the current movement's goals devastate our society. With all my heart, I believe that if we are to build a better society that equally serves men and women based on their nature, neo-feminism needs to be stopped.

In my view, Neo feminism can be called Marxist feminism. At its core, it is based on the struggle between oppressors and oppressors. Its techniques and cry are based on opening closed wounds to create a cause. The cries of the movements are based on abstract concepts and slogans, making intelligent, logical debates almost impossible. In this Neo Marxist view, Women are the oppressed, and men (and the patriarchy) are the oppressors. At its core, this philosophy is a zero-sum game, positioning man and woman on two opposite sides of a power struggle. Like all good historical Marxist movements, the core cry of the neo-feminist is based on theoretical slogans, at best, based on perception (feelings) and not reality. Making it one of the most unconstructive ideas on a social scale. This kind of Marxism has been tried many times, bringing misery, pain, and destruction to entire populations. The current iteration uses power struggle slogans. Presenting men as toxic, violent, incapable, and oppressive. While simultaneously presenting women as intelligent, slaved, struggling, oppressed, and victim. In this game, women can do everything men do, while men, at best, can be marginalized as they are an obstacle on the way to a utopia. There is no middle ground, no healthy collaboration concept, and no equality regarding entitlements.

Unlike other Marxist movements, Neo feminism believes in the superiority of women over men. An idea that reflects narcissistic immaturity. Overall, the idea that one of the sexes is superior to another is not only unprovable historically, it is an aggregate absurdity. Practically, we are all here thanks to men and women equally. Each played his role in the game of evolution.

Moreover, it is safe to assume that only a retrospective healthy collaboration between both sexes allowed the creation and survival of new offspring. A level of patriarchy existed in the family structure for an extended period. But even then, men couldn’t go to work in the field without women taking care of the house, while women couldn’t do their part without having food and shelter security offered by the men. The status of women was not equal in any way to men but was nevertheless necessary for family and society as a whole. Even in societies (as the Nordic) in which women had what could be described as more masculine roles, men from their side automatically took other roles. The general idea was that men and women are different in their nature and necessary for each other to create wholeness and continuity.

 To achieve their goal, the neo-feminists had to eliminate the biggest obstacle in their way. The idea is that men and women are different. By doing so, they could create an illusion allowing them to compare both sexes and put themselves on the top of their self-made pyramid. In their imaginary world, women can do everything a man can do (some claim even better), while men are obviously incapable of excelling in being a woman. From an egocentric, narcissistic perspective, it could never be different. If a subjective side is to be the person who sets the standard and then judges it with a self-proving bias, the idea that one can be like everybody, but no one can be like him (her) is understandable. By elevating women to an imaginary pedestal, a big step has been achieved in establishing the oppressed oppressor notion in society.

Many young women are attracted to this notion for the wrong reasons. All young adults growing up under the Boomer generation have been promised everything. The notion that we are special, that we can achieve whatever we want, That we deserve something, and that life is a game made for our win are all part of the notion of this new and young generation. Men and women have been fed this golden spoon. A dream that is based on wishful thinking of hoping parents. Unfortunately, life is more complicated and demanding, leaving many young adults unprepared for reality, which is hard, demanding, and ruthless. As people grow up, they realize that most people are not rich, famous, and not extremely successful. And for women, a serious challenge exists physically and economically in bearing children. This generation of lost women had to face reality, showing them that life is not what they thought it would be, comfortably positioning them in a self-imposed position of victimhood. As most women will not blame their parents out of love or already blame their parents for too many things, an alternative had to be found.

Don’t get me wrong, I do not blame parents or generations. They all came from love and hope for their children. TV didn’t help, either. After all, they are the first generation growing up in a world dominated by Disney movies and TV shows. The bottom line is that a structural dissonance has been created in many men's and women's minds between what to expect from life and what life really is. Unfortunately, this made many confused and wishful women search for a reason to explain their misery. One that will support the notion that they deserve something. One that will validate that they are the victim of an oppressive system and one that will justify their feeling of superiority. Not surprisingly, the Neo Marxist feminism ticks all these boxes.

One of the main problems with adopting the Neo feminist agenda is that it requires women to adopt its ideas and integrate them into their personality and self-identification. Once a woman has integrated into Neo feminism, everything is seen from that length regardless of reality itself. It becomes a game of how it feels instead of what it is. Paradoxes are unavoidable as most women in the West do not live in a patriotic world with no real aggressive and oppressive masculinity. Most importantly, Neo, feminism does not elevate women to a state of happiness and self-fulfillment. Oppositely, over time, most of the neo feminists find themselves lonely, angry, in bad relationships with their partners, and many times without a relationship at all. At this point, many women will double down on their madness and blame men for not reaching their standards. They will explain to themselves that kids are not the biggest source of happiness and fulfillment but a hurdle that should be avoided. Women who oppose neo-feminism and prosper are seen as the enemy on the women's front. And eventually, any social resistance to their narcissistic demands is categorized as a bigot, misogyny, phobic, or just men. It is a tragic paradox. One that cages many women in a corner that brings them misery. 

Old good feminism is one of the West's most meaningful and important movements. The notion of equality in front of the law is unquestionable. The equality of opportunity (not outcome) harms a functioning and healthy democracy. Regardless, equality in front of the law does not mean equality in personal relationships. In any group of people, no one is equal. Each person brings to the table their unique capacities and problems. Asking people to be more of what they are not for the sake of self-elevation is a bad tactic for healthy relationships. Pretending that oppression exists in a relationship that has been created by free choice is absurd. Explaining to a person he is bad at his core can not produce trust and love. Explaining to yourselves you deserve anything or that you are socially superior due to being born with a certain sex is unrealistic. There is nothing good or positive about the first principle of neo-feminism. It is destructive and oppressive for any person adopting it.

I believe most men and women would love to have a functioning long-term relationship with the other sex, but they are in dire need of guidance and forgiveness. Many people are missing a healthy path to walk by. One that will show them how to love instead of hate. A practical explanation that will remind them that they are not the same but complete each other. One that is based on trust and dependence. Not as enemies or oppressed people but as a couple that chooses to fight together the complicated process of succeeding in life and creating a functioning, happy family with kids and a supporting cycle of friends. I believe many people need to be reminded that their life is good and that their own demons are the main obstacle to their happiness. Life is definitely hard and demanding, but it is and has always been the case. Society and its individuals exist to support each other toward joy, love, happiness, and acceptance. On many levels, it seems neo-feminism is contradicting many of these pursuits. I find it hard to see how a philosophy that is busy hating and ridiculing 50% of the population can promote anything good.

Feminism has been hijacked by a group of fanatics who couldn’t leave the battlefield after a clear victory. A group feeds on young women by developing negative feelings about the world, their place in it, and themselves. As the rate of marriage falls, the amount of single-family homes increases, and a general divide is everywhere. I believe it is time we address this issue, give it a name, and start to tackle the problem. Men, as a whole, are not toxic, and women, as a whole, are not great. We are all humans trying to make the best of the little we have, and we need each other to achieve it. Purpose is born out of creation, connection, and effort. We are all good and bad. We will all prefer love over hate and prosperity over misery. Men and women are different, and they need each other. Most importantly, we are all in it together, whether we like it or not. It is time to stop this extremism, look each other in the eyes, apologize, and forgive. Let's celebrate feminism for what it achieved and move on together toward building a better society. Neo-feminism is a cancer that is eating us alive. We need to stop letting our demons guide us. We can do better as men, women, and society at large.

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Inquiry into the Nature of Meaning

Humans are a complex dual mechanism. On one side, we have a body, and on the other, our consciousness. Both are unstoppable and inseparable. Practically, it can be said that one supports the other, and the body maintains our consciousness while our consciousness operates our body. I refer to consciousness specifically, not our brain, as it makes a big difference. Our brain is a biological mechanism that operates as part of our body. It can continue to work without consciousness if the body is artificially maintained. This separation is crucial, as we will see, as it holds one of the main keys to understanding the human condition.

Differently from the physical world, we associate ourselves with our consciousness. While consciousness cannot exist in the physical world without its body and arguably does not exist without it. When referring to a person, we rarely refer to him/her as his body. A fascinating proof is that if a person's consciousness will be swapped with another body. People will no longer refer to the body as the person. At the same time, if a consciousness suddenly appears with another body, if showing enough proof for it, people will consider the new body as the old person (consciousness). When a person acts differently from what he is anticipating to be, sentences like “Who are you?” or “Where the husband/ friend/ brother that I know went?”. This human perspective shows how we currently perceive human existence. In many ways, it elevates and separates the human consciousness from the obvious physical mechanism called the body.

The two parts of human existence are separate mechanisms operating on different time scales. The body always operates in the present, reacting to external stimuli and maintaining itself, aiming for mechanical optimization and survival. For our body, there is no past or future, only a reaction to the present stimulus and constant maintenance for the sake of its survival. Our body functions by itself. The blood circulation, digestion, etc., are all self-operating mechanism that the consciousness take for granted. 

Moreover, for most people, it is only when a part of the body stops functioning smoothly that we become aware of it. We are aware of our eyes and sight only when something goes wrong with our eyes. We become aware of our hearing capacity only when it starts to ring or whistle, and we are aware of our heart only when it has a severe problem. To us, the body is so well self-managed that we often forget to recognize how significant it is in our existence.

On the other hand, consciousness is a mechanism mainly occupied with predicting the future based on past experiences, positioning its operation everywhere except the present. Our subconscious (which we will discuss later) is probably more attentive to the present. Managing all the external cues and connecting the data of the present. Our consciousness from the other side exists in three different states. It can operate in the past, revisiting our subjective perception of past events. It can be in the future, calculating the potential outcomes (especially the ones we prefer to avoid) or in the abstract. As a state in which wishful imaginary scenarios are constructed that are not part of our past or a real potential practical future. The consciousness is never in the present. As a processing mechanism, it is always one moment too late or too early.

Our lives have moments when both the body and the consciousness are aligned. It has been called in many names. Currently, the most spread word for it is “Flow.” This stage is usually categorized as a moment in which a person is so immersed in the present that nothing else matters. In this stage, many people lose the perception of time. We are all familiar with this state. It is always achieved when doing something we are physically habituated to do and find pleasure in doing. A “negative flow” moment is also achieved in extreme danger. In a “fight or flight” moment, our focus is so high on the present that everything around us disappears. Interestingly, moments can be categorized as moments in which our consciousness is not operating. Without any evidence, I will claim a mixture of our physical body patterns and our subconsciousness operates in those moments.

The brain and consciousness can be trained in and for different purposes. Our body can be trained toward optimization of muscle, reaction, or immunity. While our consciousness can be trained to ignore, add, or exist in different states. In our current day, both our body and our consciousness are not fully understood to us. We have made significant progress in both, but we are still far from starting to understand fully its essence or its details. Nobody can fully explain the mysteries of our body molecules, DNA, and even the functionality of our cells. When it comes to consciousness, we can map the brain and recognize patterns, but this is the best we manage to do.

We are only alive because we wake up in the morning. It is as easy as that! We cannot stop it from happening. We close our eyes when the physical system signals that it needs recovery, and after a limited time, we wake up, and here we are again. There is no nihilism in this sentence. It is just a fact we are all aware of. Our body, unlike our consciousness, is just running its mechanism. It is a question of the unpreferable continuity of any well-functioning system that is powered up and constantly continues to get what it needs to operate. On the other side, our consciousness is extremely different. It is a by-product of our body that wakes us up constantly without giving us a good explanation, as consciousness is busy calculating outcomes based on past experiences. It works by constructing inner mechanisms of “logical” and constant cause-and-effect structures. It is a reinforcing machine that is optimized to predict successful future outcomes. We know how to add things together, creating combinations that, in their turn, make new variations. After all, if one is searching to predict the future, some basic past cause and effect should exist. Without it, it is pure guesswork, which cannot be trusted for survival. In many ways, our consciousness can be described as a relentless self-correcting mechanism that optimizes for successful prediction and not survival.

When using the words trust and control, we mean predictability. Trusting someone eventually boils down to being able to predict one action. It reflects the consistency of patterns and our trust it will continue to do so. In many ways, we can trust our enemies to be who they are if they follow a certain code. Trust is a function of subjective belief in our capacity to predict one future behavior into the future. Sometimes, we agree upon it aloud; sometimes, it is part of an observation process. Control is not different. It is our capacity (or belief) that we have and will have the power to influence the future the way we want it to be. When referring to the idea that somebody is in control, it usually means that he has a conscious belief in his capacity to influence the future favorably. Anxiety comes from recognizing we do not control future outcomes, and mistrust is created when our predictive mechanism fails us. Both refer to future outcomes and our predictive capacity based on our past experience.

One of the by-products of advanced consciousness is the requirement of meaning. It is the essence of human existence and the common denominator of all of us. We require meaning; without it, our consciousness cannot truly validate its existence. Let me explain this statement. Our bodies exist as part of the physical and objective world. We feel hunger, pain, and variation of heartbeat that constantly validate its existence. The enjoyment of pain felt by some people is a consequence of the need to validate our body's existence or compensate for a lack of deeper meaning. Consciousness is not physical.

Moreover, it is not part of our present in most of our lives. In many ways, consciousness is the essence of what we call abstract, as it represents an entity that we know exists that is always there. One we cannot see, touch, or physically validate. We know it is there, but we cannot prove it. Due to that, humans require meaning. One that will justify and validate the existence of consciousness. It is an unstoppable process, as consciousness is unstoppable. It is part of the human mechanism. It is human's biggest blessing and its biggest curse.

Historically, human actions can be understood as a search and validation for meaning. Eventually, the human experience is based on the creation of meaning and its protection. It can come in many forms that all boil down to what we call Identity. Identity is meaning. It is the structure we attach to ourselves. One that allows us first to create a logical path that explains our existence and secondly (and more importantly) it validates our existence by attaching ourselves to something recognizable and accepted by other people around us (which is an extension of the physical world we are part of). As we will see later, meaning and identity come in many forms, and a lack of them will create havoc by forcing people into extremism. It is the only denominator of human existence and its capacity to flourish. All other aspects of our life are just a second or third order from it.

As I mentioned previously, conscience has two separate ways to validate itself. The first is to recognize its pattern and prove itself it is successfully constant over time and accurate in its capacity to predict itself, which is internal. The second is by external validation. This is done by associating itself with outside factors that react to it, validating its existence. It is unclear if only one can exist without the other for a functioning healthy system. Possibly, both are required to a certain extent, balancing and reinforcing each other. As we will see later, the need for power, obsessive need for control, religions, the pursuit of money, and most mental problems can be explained and traced to a lack of internal meaning or a general collapse of its validating principle. Relationships, family, and affiliation to society are also part of meaning in the form of purpose. (We will delve into it as well later on). Meaning is the essence of our existence. Whether we like it or not, it is built into us.

I believe that most, if not all, of the problems we face in the West are part of a meaning crisis. Extreme liberalism, depression, suicide, hate, extremism, and social crisis reflect it. It is a lack of internal meaning and a lack of positive and constructive external validation that makes us feel lost, detached, lacking control, anxious, and angry. God gave humans an internal source of validation by creating a relationship with his consciousness. In my latest book, “The Human Perspective- New Lessons from Genesis,” I discuss the idea that God can be seen as our consciousness. Based on that assumption, the “Death of God,” referred to by Nitzsche, can be seen as the death of our clear connection and pursuit of understanding with our inner world. By reaching this point, the only validation people are left with is external, making them more meaningful than they should be. This is also reflected in the little space and studies we apply to Philosophy in our current society. Philosophy is an alternative path toward internal meaning. By “killing our gods” and leaving philosophy behind, our capacity to understand, speak, and positively evolve from our meaning crisis seems complicated.

Before moving forward, I will add a short discussion about the subconscious. Without it, we cannot move forward peacefully and reach true conclusions that can help us understand ourselves, life, and the possible solutions. Zigmond Frued has popularized the concept of the subconscious. Making it familiar to most of the Western world. To explain it simply, subconsciousness is part of our thinking mechanism that works outside our consciousness. It works faster and on a larger scale. It constitutes a lot of different patterns and memories we cannot always recall. It is a mechanism that spits to the consciousness conclusions. Some parts of the subconscious process can be reached by a concentrated effort (as rebuilding a certain logic slower), and some other parts of it are unreachable. In other cases, we become aware of our subconscious assumptions only when reaching a new point in life.

A good example is the discovery most people reach when they first become parents. A complete set of beliefs and mental structures flood their consciousness from one moment to another. They are full of values and ideas about which kind of parent they should be (we will come back to), how they expect their spouse to behave, and what person they should become. These values were always there in the subconscious, built up over life but never addressed or reached. They become real and relevant from nowhere, moving forward to the consciousness.

While it is all true and fascinating, when it comes to meaning, I believe the role of the subconsciousness needs to be seen as a secondary machine that serves ideas to the consciousness. It is a bit like a coffee machine. It will spit coffee based on the capsule you insert into it. As long as the machine works (meaning the subconscious spits things out), what is happening in the machine is irrelevant. Life and meaning are, in many ways, all about what you do with the coffee once it is out.

Additionally, the relation between consciousness and the subconscious is not a one-directional path. Consciousness affects the subconscious and vice versa. Controlling and exploring the subconscious is a fascinating topic that can occupy a lifetime. Still, it is not relevant or practical if we are to understand the role and importance of meaning truly. The belief that there is an untouchable void in ourselves that we cannot reach and affect our lives is not helpful (and even destructive). If we are to bring ourselves from nowhere to somewhere, it is only the concentration on what we can control and our reaction to it that matters. Only our consciousness can be controlled, trained, and understood in this context. Making it the only relevant conversation worth having.

Consciousness is a given, and so is our need for meaning. It is not a question of will. As our body needs food, our consciousness needs meaning. How we handle it and the path we choose to adopt in the subject matter will determine our life, happiness, and peacefulness. There is not a single true meaning to fit them all. Oppositely, endless paths fit each person and possibly each period of an individual life. I believe that how we build and maintain this meaning makes all the difference to start with. I will develop the concept and detail it in my following posts.

When we lack purpose, life is meaningless. With a meaning, our consciousness gets lost and requires a power struggle and external extremism to validate its existence. Most people look for simple external answers to deep and complicated topics, making them vulnerable to bad actors that pull them into their madness for the sake of power and fame. I believe it is not our society that is broken but our capacity to create internal meaning and positive external validation. Only by addressing this subject can we start to understand how to get out of our current crisis united and with better youth. Our youth need guidance (and most of us, too). It is our duty to help them as they are our future. Meaning is the essence of the human experience and our shared denominator. If we stop arguing about gender, pronounce, patriarchy, politics, and all the rest of the temporary nonsense that mainly makes us feel weak, lost, and victimized, and start talking about shared meaning, internal purpose, and positive role models. Maybe we still have a chance. A chance to give ourselves and our children hope for a better future.

Overcoming Nihilism

Meaning and purpose have been part of human existence for as long as we know ourselves. Diversity of meaning has been one of the most crucial factors in the separation and division of human societies throughout history. Questions surrounding the subject have been discussed by philosophers for millennia's establishing it as the core denominator of all religions, political movements, and social revolutions. The capacity of a person to accept and respect the fact that different people have different meanings and purposes in life has been the foundation of democracy, allowing the West to prosper and reach its current stage. Christianity and monotheism, in general, are based on the need of humans to have a clear, articulated, and applicable purpose. Creating meaning for each person based on their personality. Such a frame allows societies and the people in it to concentrate on other social matters as a generally comfortable framework accepted by everyone participating in the community.

Our current Western society is evolving toward Nihilism. It is reflected in many places in the West. Making it one of the most concerning developments of the last decade. The implication of such a philosophy is destructive to any society that seeks to cooperate and evolve constructively. At its core, it contradicts the idea of society to start with. The Oxford definition of Nihilism is "the rejection of all religious and moral principles, in the belief that life is meaningless." If I need to put it in my own simple words, I will define it as follows: The belief that our existence has no more significant meaning or importance than a rock, ant, or a tree. It is an equality of nothingness, making humans not only not important but, in many cases, less relevant than the trees in a forest. The term nihilism emerged in several places in Europe during the 18th century, notably in the German form "Nihilismus." However, it was also used during the Middle Ages to denote certain forms of heresy. The concept first took shape within Russian and German philosophy, representing the two major currents of discourse on Nihilism before the 20th century.

The recent increase in Nihilism is not surprising. The fall of Christianity, the fear of Nationalism, and the deconstruction of the historical family structure all contribute to this movement. Another factor is the recent doom day extinction rebellion that the media and our government constantly push in our faces. Concepts such as the alarmist Global Warming, Covid, the last 20 years of economic instability, and the aggressive liberal call to cancel everything we used to be proud of all bring people to the unavoidable conclusion that life is meaningless. Loneliness in big cities and the advance of social media do not help either, as it diminishes our interaction with real people, diminishing our social skills and our need for accountability. Nietzsche saw it coming and warned us about it. His full quote about the death of god goes around the lines of – "If people stop believing in god, they will start to believe in anything presented to them." Not very optimistic at its core.

The subject of Nihilism is very close to my heart, as I have fallen deeply into its shadow. It was not a voluntary choice but seemed like an unavoidable logical conclusion at the time. At first, there was something very comforting and liberating to the idea that there is no meaning or purpose in my life, as it freed me from any responsibility or demands I had from myself. The idea that there is no point as there is no meaning meant that accountability or true responsibility is needed. I was free to be nothing and do everything. A true childish dream of a dreaming Peter Pan. Unfortunately, this comfort very fast changed into darkness. The more I dug into it, the less meaning I had. The more I tried to get out of it, the more I found around me good reasons that pushed me back down. It is a hard place to be and to be honest, it almost killed me.

An interesting thing about being part of the Nihilist clan is that it reinforces itself in circles. As more people join in, less meaning things start to have around. After all, if nobody cares, many things truly become unimportant. Moreover, I noticed that for some people, The idea that they are not alone in this dark place makes them feel more powerful and important. It gives them a reinforcement and, in some way, a new meaning – To spread the gospel of Nihilism and meaning in a half-prophetic way. Funnily enough, it is a paradox, as a Nihilist who believes he has a mission by itself makes him unconsciously believe in his own importance, making him a believer in meaning itself. Maybe, it is our inner need to have a purpose for meaning or our unconscious mechanism that cannot avoid it over a long enough period.

In our current day and age, most of our environment promotes hopelessness and meaningless existence. It is everywhere. From the "end of the world" movies to the futuristic TV shows that show us how we destroy ourselves. The promotion of alarming global warming that is mainly based on twisted statistics (and no, I'm not a global warming denier), the neo-feminism that explain man they are primarily a toxic unneeded aberration of woman, and the general deconstructive movement that scream we are all bad in our core and that we should all be ashamed and disgust from our history. It is a relentless propaganda that feeds on itself—evolving as a social chimera infecting every aspect of our life.

The ease with which this idea spread seems almost too natural. It pops up from nowhere and seems to resonate with many young people in the West. I came across many young and old people explaining that there is no meaning and that any trial to create one is artificial and based on hypocrisy. After reflecting on the subject for some time, I believe that the rise of Nihilism has two requirements that allow him to flourish. One is the aggressive push for Doom mentioned above, and the second is that many people no longer have a clear and solid value proposition to hold onto in difficult times. For millennia, religion, Nationalism, and social structures were taken as an obvious given. It made everything easier as it dictated its core meaning: one that framed people's life, purpose, and role.

Many spokespersons in our current age explain that the reason for our increasing Nihilism is based on the push for Doom propagated around us. They normally pick one specific reason and make a short career out of it. Some blame the church, others the government, feminism, or the economic stagnation of the last 20 years. I have no doubt in my mind that this approach is excellent for a career, but I believe it is an easy and unsatisfactory path to take if we are to find a real solution to our problem. All the reasons mentioned above are justified. They can explain to lost souls what is happening around them. It answers the question of "What is happening?" convincingly, allowing people to repeat to themselves and the people around them. Regardless, I believe that concentrating on these issues becomes part of the problem over time, not the solution. After all, explaining why reality is problematic without outlining a real solution is no different from any other doomsday they complain about.

Following long reflections, I believe there is one denominator to all these social movements and the rise of Nihilism. It is a meaning crisis. We lack purpose, and we are told there is none. We are explained that all the ancient purposes betrayed us and that believing in one brought only misery to humanity and our world. On many levels, it is true. Many values we had have brought violence that benefited a small part of the population at best, in the price of the suffering and sacrifice of the many. Ignoring or denying it is not helpful and easy to prove. Regardless, the solution is not to get rid of it altogether.

My biggest issue with Nihilism and the reasons I believe we do not have a real constructive discourse about it is that, at its core, the ideas behind it are right. They reflect a scary truth. One that we just called bigotry and heresy for millennia. The idea is that, in the most simplistic and basic manner, there is no fundamental meaning and purpose to our life. It is a hard pill to swallow, but one we should address if we are to move forward. I genuinely believe that the only reason we wake up in the morning is because we open our eyes, and here we are. It is an unavoidable truth that we never really manage to contradict without creating tales about the afterlife, gods, and nationalist folklore. Our actions are temporary, and on a historical level, only a few people are remembered. It is all true regardless of how it makes you feel, but it is missing the point. The only point that really matters, and what I believe to be the solution to our problem, have nothing to do with why you wake up in the morning but all to do with what you do with it now that you are here. It is not an obligation; it is a choice. Which probably is the reason it is so complicated and demanding.

Meaning is a classic example of something we can do without but shouldn't. It is not given or inborn by the universe. It is created in our minds. It creates purpose, cooperation, happiness, and joy. It helps us overcome hardship and bring out the power we never believed we had inside of us. Making it the most powerful force in the human arsenal. A person can pass an entire life without meaning, holding to the idea that there is none. But in that case, his life is unimportant, and his actions are irrelevant. A person that believes in Nihilism is just waiting to die. In case the nihilistic person in question has some form of benevolence, the person will wait for its end, trying to hurt or damage his surrounding as less as possible, making him psychologically more of a disease on earth than part of a bigger interconnected cosmos (Sounds familiar Greta?). We can all live like this or just die in mass suicide altogether tomorrow. After all, there is no point. I find it to be a miserable way to live a life. One that I will not wish for any person I love. Not because it is wrong but because we can do much better.

Meaning is there in abundance if one is searching to have one. It is found in beauty, art, and music. It is there and affects all humans regardless of their culture, age, or race. The fact that we find a universal joy in music can prove that meaning exists irrespective of our conscious effort. It uncontrollably moves something in all of us. It is done without any conscious effort. Music is sound. It is the combination of sounds we enjoy hearing not for reaching its end but for the sake of the process of listening to it. It has no purpose, but it has a deep meaning. It is different for each of us, but it exists in all of us. This by itself shows meaning is there. We can ignore it and live without it. But if we wish and want, it is there for the grab. Most importantly, it is nice and adds to our lives. Making it a better place and giving us a good reason to live another day.

We are currently experiencing a crisis of meaning and purpose on a mass scale. We became addicted to holding into problems, making them the depressing center of our reality. Peaceful solutions require effort and a messy process of trial and error. Something many people will be reluctant to engage with as they are exhausted from the fear-mongering of the loud minority of extremism that took over our perspective. It is a challenging path that we are reinforcing and solidifying. It is a race to the bottom. Jordan Peterson said while talking to a crowd that: "There's this idea that hell is a bottomless pit, and that's because no matter how bad it is, some stupid son of a bitch like you can figure out a way to make it a lot worse." It is true and somehow became a sport some people are proud to partake in.

Meaning, at its core, is a solution. Not a perfect one, but a solution at its essence. It is what makes life count. It is a subjective purpose based on beauty and promotes the creation of more of the same beauty. We can live without it on an individual level, but on a social level, we cannot. Order is based on meaning. Love is a manifestation of our willingness to have meaning. Hope builds on the meaning we choose to allocate to our future, creating purpose. It doesn't have to be grandiose or fancy. It just needs to exist. I believe that at our core, we would all wish for health, security, and happiness for the people we love. I believe we would all prefer to be happy and not sad. That love is better than hate, and that trust is better than mistrust.

The hardest part about it is that having a purpose and holding into it is a choice. One that requires discipline and mental strength. Life is long, complicated, and usually not what we tough it will be. Living constantly tests our conviction and strength. Giving us all the reason in the world to give up and cave to Nihilism. Being alone and isolated hinders our capacity to hold onto our meaning as it puts all the weight on our psyche that weakens over time. Regardless, if we are to create a better life for ourselves, the people we love, and the future generation, we need to believe we have a purpose. Not because it is a must but because it is the only path that creates hope.

I believe in my capacity to create a better future as I believe in the capacity of humans to wish for prosperity. Some people call me naïve, and they might be right. But I would prefer every day to live in a naïve way with meaning, rather than a life based on a realistic, depressing way that will bring me nowhere good. Meaning is a choice and a responsibility. One that we can help each other hold. Not because it brings us to a known end but because the alternative is clearly getting us nowhere.

Check out my latest books or post if you want to learn how these ideas can be implicated in an educational system.

The State of Education: A conversation about Constructive Education

The world is changing. The development of the last 150 years has brought humanity to progress and evolved into a process called "Globalization." The process itself is healthy, as it connects people around the world. Promoting a general consciousness that, for the first time in history, can make us understand we are all humans. We are sharing the same planet and fighting to promote a better world. Without any doubt, ideas of fear and separation are still broadly held by many, making it the biggest challenge of our time.

Our capacity to share and create ideas between people and cultures is the primary tool that brought us the progress we are enjoying those days in the West. Nevertheless, the main obstacle to creating a better global future hides in our education. Individuals and societies are a direct consequence of local education. It is the educational system that constructs our way of thinking. It shapes the youth's main frame and creates and reinforces societal values spread into the general population.

Regardless of the technological advancement of the last 30 years, the direction seen in the academic and educational system is concerning. It does not follow the potential we all hoped for. The capacity to be exposed to vast amounts of information could decentralize knowledge. Allowing people to demand a more open and diverse approach to the rigid educational system that has existed for a long time. Unfortunately, our current era's education system teaches the young to be terrified, full of guilt, and hater. Contributing to their separation from their peers around the world. It doesn't promote progress or a society that sustains individuals. Oppositely, the recent decades have promoted values of separation and increased awareness of a subject that could be seen as being on the verge of resolution. Issues such as racism, sexism, and homophobia have become, in recent years, a central topic in the education world. The trend is very concerning for several reasons.

The first and most important reason is related to the fact that the state of racism, woman's status, and homosexual acceptance at the beginning of the 2010s could be considered a mainly resolved problem. Gay rights have been integrated or are in the process of integration in most of the West. Woman's liberation and rights have been achieved, and racism was at its lowest point in human history. This is not to say it was perfect, but we managed to reach a very advanced and positive point toward resolution. The general notion separated from the actual reality has been created by reintroducing these subjects to children and students. By resurfacing these ideas and putting them in the front, the nonissue returned to being problematic. There is something very unproductive in blowing out of proportion an issue, as it does not promote any constructive solution. Instead of integrating the success of recent decades, searching for a minor problem and making it big creates, in people, and especially kids' minds, a dissonance to promote separation, hate, and fear.

The second issue is that by making this topic the cornerstone of our conversation as social issues, our capacity to concentrate and have a real discourse about the real problems in our society drops to 0. We all have limited mental capacity, especially when handling negative feelings. Many real social problems exist, but concentrating on the wrong problems robs us of being able to address the relevant issues. Moreover, the topic itself of sexism, racism, and homophobia is not presented to the younger generation in a neutral manner that aims for any resolution that will promote love, unity, and acceptance. It is taught by angry and frustrated adults that mainly explain why the world is a bad place and how it makes them (the kids) problematic at their core.

The third issue concerns the confusion it creates in a kid's mind. I wrote a long article about the consequences of this movement in a different article called "The LGBH! Movement"! To summarize, kids are a very elastic population vulnerable to propaganda. The concept of identity and firm worldview are nonexistent. By promoting these issues, the amount of confusion created by this generation is immense and has long-term consequences for their well-being in the long run. Lenin famously said: "Give me four years to teach the children, and the seed I have sown will never be uprooted." As I wrote in my article, most current social issues do not stem from a real need for social change but from confused young people who are lost. Without the capacity to understand who they are, what they want to be, or what to do in their society. These young people are lost in a world of fear, separation, hatred, and confusion. A reality I believe is directly connected to our failing educational system. 

It is normal that as the world changes, the educational system and its values will change with it. Regardless, due to its importance, it should be closely observed and scrutinized if we are to keep its positive relevance. There is no doubt that Aa change is needed in this system. Like any other change, we should be very careful regarding how we do it, as it will determine the mental stage of our children and future societies. Change can come randomly or in a controlled fashion. As the state controls most Western education, the second option is unavoidable. The issue with this point is that government changes too often in the West, making the educational system vulnerable to the wishes of the current government's momentary philosophy. As this subject is essential in our society, I believe a general standard to judge the educational system should be determined and applied. In my Book "Back to Ourselves," I laid out such a standard for our current education system, which I called constructive education. I describe it in the following way:

"Constructive education is an apolitical education that fundamentally gives an individual the tools needed to acquire information from all sorts, to appreciate and doubt the source of information in hand, and to develop his conclusions while maintaining the general understanding of what he does not know."

Our current educational system is far from this definition. It promotes hate and fear. This is extremely dangerous, as it promotes violence and separation. These feelings are easy to manipulate as they exist in many. This social weakness has been built over time due to the malfunction of our society, problematic government, and the economic devastation caused by the explosive national debts that impose unproductive taxes on the masses. The need for better education is urgent. In many conversations I had with people around me, I realized that most people in the West understand that something is wrong with education these days. Many are trying to find simple answers to complicated questions. In many cases, after a short evaluation of the situation. Many conclude that the problem of our current educational system is related to the institution itself, the teacher's quality, the size of the classes, or the program itself. I believe the problem is deeper and more serious.

The abovementioned symptoms are part of an old reflection of a deeper problem. The state takes over the educational institution. By doing so, the governments in the West have robbed education of their much-needed freedom. In recent years, the constrained put on teachers and professors has come to the front. The requirement and political limitations imposed on many of them transformed a place of ideas into a prison of thought. The mixture of ever-increasing bureaucracy and educational restraints creates an institution more similar to a communist educational camp than an open, decentralized place of ideas. The educational institution of our days can not be called a constructive education. They do not promote values the young generation needs to create a better future, nor the tools needed to handle the complicated reality we call life.

I believe a second definition is needed to understand my last statement better. I have a long discussion in my books about the subject. Observing deeper the different aspects of education. In my Second book, "The Human Perspective," I went as far as to show how the bible, in its origin, exists to teach us fundamental lessons about constructive education. To come full circle about educational standards. I concluded that the opposite alternative to constructive education could be called "Depressive Education." I describe it as follows:

"Depressive education" gives an individual the "absolute" and "unquestionable" truth rather than tools to learn and question. In other words, depressive education teaches individuals what to think, not how to think. It is normally hostile to questioning and promotes hate and separation. Killing the drive of individuals to understand and question.

A depressive education will lead individuals to believe there's only one reality and truth. The core method of this system is to impose one belief system on reality and demand it will change based on it. The logic is simple, If I believe X, then it is X. If reality shows me it is Y, I can ignore it or demand (sometimes shout) at it until it becomes an X. If it doesn't, we will call it X anyhow, hoping it will change over time. This aggressive behavior is applied to all systems and people. It becomes a pattern that builds on itself. After a certain amount of time, any Y, regardless of its size or importance, symbolizes a general failure of the system. Making it dangerous and worth "Dying for." The implication of Depressive education can be seen all over the Western world. Making it a common denominator all over the Western educational system. Its implication is hard to ignore as one does not need to look far to see them daily. 

By teaching younger generations how things are and not how things should be done, we're taking away their ability to think, create, and survive. A long period of depressive education will inevitably cause society to view different opinions and qualities as negative while believing that only the majority opinion can be right. This promotes fear of the "other" and creates separation between people and their neighbors, peers, and society. Looking at and judging our current education in terms of "Constructive" or Depressive" education will easily allow us to notice the origin of the issues in our current system. Modern education preaches fear of strange and/or different opinions; it promotes self-concentration and social judgment and reinforces existing beliefs. It also ignores the growing paradoxes shown by day-to-day reality. Its effect can be seen all over the globe. Especially related to social topics promoting the legitimacy of questioning the definition of what is a woman can a man have a period.

The young generation in the West holds onto a philosophy of fear and terror, creating concern about humanity's ability to create a better future for our children. My personal belief is that a depressive education controls the Western world and makes the younger generation feel that the world is a dark, dangerous place that has no hope or capacity to create a better future. By any standard, this is not an education that promotes a better future or one we should actively or passively support.

Before ending this post, I would like to elaborate on "Constructive education." I genuinely believe that identifying a problem is only the first step toward finding a solution. Identifying the Depressive education system will bring us nowhere if we do not hold a valid alternative with clear principles. The points below are some general points written under the principle of what I consider to be a constructive education. These points do not reflect an educational system but the ideas that should stand behind it. As different societies in the world have different ways of passing information to each other, a custom educational system should be built based on the habits and norms of the local population.

I will start with a list of guiding values that must apply to all educational systems and the people who participate in education. 

·       Know yourself as you are.

·       Be an example of your demands.

·       Respect your surroundings as you ask to be respected.

·       Take the time to understand.

·       Accept opinions as they are all part of the same reality.

·       Embrace the needs of your society as they are your own.

·       Strive to be the best version of yourself.

·       Encourage love and understanding.

·       Ask to learn and learn to ask.

·       Accept failure as it's a part of learning and success.

The list below reflects what I believe should be the frame of ideas guiding the system and its activities as a whole:

• Words exist to express reality, never the opposite. Creating a reality based on words will create a lack of healthy communication, which will bring fear, separation, and loneliness.

• Our past is what brought us here. We cannot move forward productively without understanding where we come from.

• Demolition is easy, while construction is difficult. Do not break for the sake of progress, as the existing structure brought us to the prosperity we live in today.

• The collective, as a whole, is always problematic as it is a conceptual invention. For a better society, the individual should be educated as an individual and then as a part of a realistic group. (which does not imply a personal teacher for each student or the lack of importance of being part of a defined group).

• Knowledge is a positive power only when it comes out of peacefulness. Change is a positive thing that should be encouraged and not feared. Knowledge is positive only if an individual or a group uses it to benefit future generations based on the principles of unification, peace, and curiosity.

• A person is better at doing one simple task at a time. A complicated task is complex for an individual if the person didn't master the simple tasks separately before putting them together or if a person lacks the understanding of the task itself. 

·         The best way to optimize an individual and a society is to outsource everything that is not the core activity of an individual while keeping an active part in the creation process.

·         Core activities of an individual are the activities an individual naturally feels comfortable doing for long periods, creating an intellectual sense and purpose. Naturally, these activities are intuitively understood and developed in the individual's mind.

• To help people, an individual must focus on people's needs and dreams, not on his own.

• The educational system should lead the individual not to compare themselves to what they think they should be but to what they were yesterday.

• People must know how to make decisions based on their own inner truth but should live by making as few decisions as possible.

• Positive productivity means creating better quality, not creating more. For positive productivity, time and peacefulness are required.

It is important to remember, when approaching the idea of education, that its purpose is to enrich the students, give them better tools to handle life and make them better in the field they are trying to learn. As Alan Watts said - "The reward of learning French should be the capacity to enjoy their culture and people, not to hold a certificate." The first and most important standard of education should be the answer to one simple question – does it promote the student's well-being and create a healthier society? I believe the answer is intuitive to most people. If not, it is probably because we are too busy defending a paradox.

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Lost of critical thinking in an era of confusion

During the pandemic, we all passed many changes as individuals and as a society. A long period of terror and confusion has been induced by the lack of clarity and incapability to fully understand what we are fighting against. One of the biggest development observed throughout the Western world in that period is the development of violence, frustration, and dichotomy. We have lost trust. Some of us in our government, some in sciences, some in their neighbors, and some in society.

In her book “The Shock Doctrine,” Neomi Klein describes in detail how the effect of an economic and physical shock can reshape society to its core. While we can disagree on how we change as a society in this covid era, I believe it is clear to all everything has changed. We all became something new, personally and as a society. 

The creation of society and its prosperity is based on some kind of social understanding and the willingness of its individuals to cooperate. This cooperation is the root of any prosperous society. Since society is based on the many actions of personal actors, the fundamental ideas of tolerance and acceptance are the core value of any productive society. Accepting others, accepting that others think and act differently, and accepting that we are all entitled to our thoughts and action, are the basis of any healthy social contract.

To maintain such a healthy relationship between individuals in a society, two things must exist: Tolerance and critical thinking. Tolerance is based on the capacity to accept that different people can think differently. Furthermore,, it is the acceptance that different thoughts are healthy and create the variety and riches of society itself. It is not only important that people think differently and can share it openly. It is a fundamental need to create progress, uniqueness, and advancement.

Critical thinking is probably more complicated but not less important. A person can question and doubt his assumptions. The world is complex and constantly changing. Many things that are true today will be false tomorrow. In many cases, many think that are good and relevant today change over time. The basic idea of critical thinking can be summarized as follows: when evaluating a thought, search to be proven wrong instead of seeking affirmation of what you already know. To pursue such a path, a person must confront (peacefully) another person holding different values. This is the only way. In most cases, a person cannot be aware of what he doesn’t know. It is a hard process that requires humility and honesty. Nevertheless, it is the only way to truly understand what is true.

In today's day and age, it seems our society lost both tolerance and critical thinking. We prefer to let the authorities dictate truths, as we are exhausted. We attack any person who thinks differently and categorizes him as a conspiracy theory radicalist because it makes us uncomfortable. This feeling of uncomfortability comes from the deep understanding that we could be wrong. We hate it! Not because we hate the idea that another person can be right. But because it reminds us how much we don’t know and how much it scares us.

Crises are temporary and pass over time, and Societal changes affect generations ahead. In this reality of fear and dichotomy, friendships are broken, and families are falling apart because of a lack of tolerance and critical thinking. Those losses and scars make us more lonely, fragile, and scared. Our society is falling apart, hailing for our government to save us all from what is eventually our incapability to recognize ourselves in the mirror. We can blame only ourselves for what we have become. Not the pandemic, our neighbors, or our government.

Let us try to listen to each other again. Accept and support each other regardless of our differences. Bring back small hopes and beautiful moments together. Slowly slowly, step by step. Because the happiness and health our each of us and our society as a whole

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The LGBH! movement — Separating Sexual Preference, Self Identity and Anger

“I Believe we are all unique but not special.” The Human Perspective — New Lessons from Genesis

This post is written due to a personal necessity. One that has been imposed on me as it has been imposed on many others. It addresses the general violent confusion about the ever-growing alphabet salad, which we should all accept and adopt regardless of our beliefs and our inner and unexplained confusion. It is a topic built on slogans that we must all repeat regardless of the inner dissonance it creates. Most importantly, we should all agree that it is the most critical subject of our time, regardless of the small to nonexistent minority that it addresses.

When I was first introduced to the subject, the topic seemed unimportant. It has been presented to me by exposing me to the “pronounce” idea. As a first reaction, I categorize it as something that sounds like an adolescent tantrum that should be ignored. I had an inner need to distance myself from it. There was something wrong with this topic. One that I knew, based on first principles, was wrong. But I couldn’t put it in words or build relevant logic to defend it. Over time, and as the subject became more prominent, I realized that I was not alone in this predicament, differently from the extreme and well-articulated slogan-based argument made by the defenders of this madness. I was not prepared, neither had the time to formulate a genuine idea about a topic that until yesterday seemed insane.

The creation of the infinite and ever-growing alphabet salad is not built in that way by mistake. It allows extremely small minorities to group around a bigger group that merits its existence. Doing so allows this angry and confused minority to downplay the importance of the original movement and elevate their unjustified cause. They do so by eliminating any obstacle in its march forward and making us all forget why we gather here in the first place.

After a long and painful process of trying to understand what all this mess is about, I came to realize that we are missing an essential point in our social debate (If you can still call it a debate). As we were busy trying to understand what their arguments are all about, we took one of their fundamental ideas for granted — The idea that it is all one unified group. I believe the key to solving this hellish alphabet salad is connected to this point. And I hope I will surprise you in the way I will present it all.

To seriously start a conversation about the topic, I believe a separation needs to be established. I would divide people and the general population into three separate categories representing the totality of any population on Earth. The first is a category of people that know what they are and have a certain sexual attraction to another category of humans. The second is a group that is obsessed with who they are regardless of their sexual orientation, and the third group is constructed by confused people that have a deep need to feel special and are in desperate need of attention.

I decided to call the first group LGBH! The acronym is for Lesbian, Gays, Bi Sexual, a Heterosexual. The exclamation point, in the end, is there to make sure no more letters exist in this acronym. This group is addressing a question of sexual preference. They clearly know what they are and normally are relatively certain about whom they find attractive. There is no confusion on the subject. The conversation occupying this group concerns one’s preference for his private life, generally in his private bedroom. The main fight (won to a certain extent in big part of the Western world) have to do with equality of opportunities (not equity…and yes, it is not the same) and legal rights in our society.

It is clear to me that there are many different people with very different aims in this group. A statement that is true regarding any kind of group. Douglas Murray famously said there is nothing in common between gays, lesbians, and bisexuals. While it is undeniably true, this statement does not help address the philosophical issue. If we are to make sense of this absurd alphabet salad, the construction of logic and not a deconstruction is what we should aim for. Following this statement, I will repeat my point. This group has something in common (yes, including the heterosexual); they want their sexual business to be a private matter that does not affect their status, opportunities, and rights.

I will intentionally ignore Asexual people, as their statement is something along the line of “I’m sexually nothing.” A statement that by itself declares that there is nothing to look or talk about. After some research, I didn’t encounter any oppression, negation of rights, or lack of equality for people who were sexually nothing. The only visible place where this can be uncomfortable is in front of one own family, as some questions will emerge over time about the family’s expectations for relationship and family creation. But this does not justify in any way the need for a general social discourse.

The second and third groups make all the rest of the letters (as many as they are). These two groups require a delicate observation (and no, not for the sake of not offending them). The reason for it is that without a clear understanding of what separates them, they can seem like one group. The distinction is extremely important if we are to move forward in our understanding, as it separates between a small minority that needs to be addressed properly in our evolving society and a big majority that need to be ignored and put back in its place.

The second group can be categorized as people that genuinely believe they are something else. Not too long ago, it referred only Transgenders, but now we must also include people that think they have multiple souls, wolfs, giraffes, etc. (a development I believe is not doing any favor for the transgenders).

Their main concern has to do with “Who” they are (different from the first group that has a clear answer for it). This is a metaphysical question that needs to be addressed in that way. The belief that one is mentally different from what he physically is is rooted in the notion we have a separate soul and body. It is an old argument, and transgender people can be seen as an extreme branch of this line of tough. The development of the virtual world of social media didn’t help either, as it reinforced the idea that one can and is something else online from what one is in the physical world. This group contains a very small minority that, in any other socio-political subject, will not even get mentioned due to their size.

Many people I spoke with on the subject conclude the argument by saying it is a mental disorder called “Gender Dysphoria,” and on many levels, they are right. Regardless, having an argument circling the question of mental sanity does not help us progress constructively, as it presents us with the same conclusion on both sides. If it is a mental problem, what should we do about it? And if it is not a mental problem, what should we do about it? Do you see my point?

My approach to it is a bit different. I believe the problem is not with its categorization but with its socio-political implications. Let us assume it is a mental disorder. It seems to me we all have some, each and his own. While many people with mental problems will justifiably search for help, I find that for some others, the solution is not to try and solve their disorder but to allow the person to live with it to the fullest. After all, all great artists or historical figures could have been categorized with a certain level of mental disorder. The fact that they took it to the fullest of its extent made them great. Looking at the transgender issue makes me believe that our problem is not with this small minority and their life choices but with their requirements from society at large.

Taking this logic forward, I would say a clear line should be drawn. One that has to do with the effect an individual’s mental disorder has on society. It is true for all mental illnesses and should be the gold standard. The line should answer the question — does this mental illness hurt anybody except the person in question? If the answer is no, it shouldn’t be addressed socially. If it does, the following questions should be — In what way? And how can we mitigate the danger? It is important to ensure that when we ask the first question, we judge it by the standard of physical harm and not the mental or philosophical aspects of the question. After all, if an adult man is convinced he is a woman and is willing to go as far as castrating himself for it, it probably proves something about his own conviction. As long as this change is not inflicting physical harm on another and is not pushed on kids, I don’t see why to stop him.

Following some reflection on the second group, I truly believe that if the Transgender community would peacefully handle their business, accepting they are a small and very peculiar minority. I doubt it would ever arrive where it is currently. The idea that we should all accept it as normal is the root of the social problem with the second group. To understand it fully, we must stop and define the word “Normal .” Everything that happens only occasionally or represents a small minority of people in a society is the definition of something that is not normal. Normality is a word that represents repetition and/or the majority. Asking people to address transgenders as “normal” created dissonance and started an important conversation based on a lie. If we all accept that it is not normal but still significant enough to address, we would have a better chance of finding good solutions for this new phenomenon.

Eventually, the majority of the second group is searching for recognition in society (Not acceptance, yes, there is a difference). At the same time, they are very different from the LGBH!. Their goal seems to be the same as the first group — Ensuring they have equal opportunities and rights as humans. I believe this request is something the majority of the people will agree with. and an argument we can and should address honestly and uncomfortably.

Transgender’s in the second group have attached themselves to the LGB because they eventually search for the same status. It is different people searching for the same end. The problem with this approach is straightforward. Since we are talking about a different category of people, they will have different needs. Meaning that the solutions need to be addressed separately. Adding themselves to the LGB, they lost the capacity to address their need and rob the other group from addressing their struggle.

Asking society to change and accept a new phenomenon is one complex task. One that requires delicacy, patience, humility, and endurance. If society as a whole needs to change, it is probably not the society that is the problem but the way a person approaches society and its problems. Before passing to the third group, I will conclude by saying the that the two first groups have the legitimacy of their own existence by being who and what they are in the real world. Democracy aims to give everyone equal opportunity based on meritocracy, equal rights, and the freedom to be what you are in your private space. None of the group seems to violate these ideas. Transgender’s are a relatively new phenomenon that must be addressed in this context. I believe they have the right to ask us to find a solution for their needs in a way that does not make us abandon our principles.

Now, let us move to the main issue at hand. The third group is currently our main problem, bringing all the alphabet salad issue into the main stage and defending it as if their life depends on it. This group, which can sometimes look like the second group, but sounds completely different, is making this topic a hell of sentimental confusion. It is constructed from people I will categorize as confused, attention sicker lost children. That needs to reinforce the notion that they are special and unique. The way they go about it is through hateful, violent victimhood. One that does not come from knowledge, logic, understanding, or wish for a positive resolution. Deep inside, They understood that adults don’t have the time or the patience to hear noisy kids (especially if they are not their kids) and that demolishing morals and social fabrics is easier to do than building something new and better.

Their problem is mental, and it is a problem that needs to be addressed on a social level. It shouldn’t be ignored by itself, as it is a cry for help. It reflects a generation of lost kids. They are afraid, lost, and hurt. Afraid of the world and afraid to face the fact that in life, to arrive from nowhere to somewhere, you need to fail and give it all and that sometimes it is not enough. They are lost as nobody slaps them and shows them the right direction, leaving them to rely on arbitrary influencers that tell them what they want to hear for momentary fame. They are hurt as they have been explained that they can be whatever they want and discovered that they are nothing. They cry for help since nobody ever taught them that they do not need external validation to be themselves. And most importantly, They believe that rights are given by birth and not a privilege you acquire by obligations, making them feel entitled to ideas they cannot even explain. For them, pride does not represent a value that signifies inner greatness. It represents the right to scream and get attention. Respect for them is not something you earn by actions but deserve by being alive. Victimhood is their weapon, and we are all their oppressors.

To achieve their infinite war against everything and everyone, they created absurdity and extreme, mainly because it reflects their inner world. It allows them to take us all on the hellish trip that they are trying to escape from. They demand everything at the price of nothing, explaining to us that it is our duty. This group is the real problem we all have. It feeds on the weakness of the good people, our current politicians’ greed and our loving parents’ fears. They do not promote peace, humility, love, or the creation of a better society.

When this group realized that the Transgender movement required real actions (such as starting to take medications and pass castration), they took a step back and then two steps forward. The invention of all the rest of the letters in the alphabet salad is a manifestation of the need for attention that does not require anything from the people that claim it. The “Pronounce” topic that jump-started this insanity is a wonderful example. It requires society to twist and redefine its language and inner world without requiring anything from the person that claims it. It is a perfect solution for this group, as it gives them the freedom and flexibility to always be oppressed while getting rid of the need to practically do or prove anything.

This group is at the center of all the general social movements in our society. They are the noisy few that understood that they could jump on the wagon of an even smaller minority for the sake of promoting their anger. They don’t represent the good of the group they claim to be part of. They are there to be noisy, angry, and hateful. Preventing us from seeing the real issues we need to address. Distracting us from having a real debate about possible solutions.

I believe a separation need to be done between the LGBH!, the transgenders, and the lost kids. It is the only way we can get out of it and bring back some sanity to our discourse and our life. It requires a clear understanding of this separation and each group’s problems. Each needs our attention, and non is unimportant. Continue to play this game, heart everybody. From the LGBH! People that need to make sure that what they achieved in our democracy is secured, to the Transgender that needs our attention and solution for their existing problems. And most importantly, to the lost kids that are crying for help and truly need a responsible assembly of adults that will discuss how to fix their predicament in a peaceful and respectable way.

The Alphabet salad is the poster child of our sickness. Our loss of philosophy, fear of talking about hard subjects, and the destruction of our family and community structure. It is time to separate this salad and start to address our problems with the right words. I hope and believe this article will give some clarity and to others words to express their thoughts. We have a hard road ahead of us. Ignoring it or hoping it will pass by itself is a delusional lie at best. We have come a long way and built great things as individuals and as a society. We are standing at a crossroad, and a decision need to be made.

Disclaimer: Do not search for my books if you feel offended or unsafe by reading this article. However, leave a comment. I am searching for people that are willing to debate with me. After all, if you have never spoken with people that do not think differently than you, it probably means you never truly spoke with anybody.