The LGBH! movement — Separating Sexual Preference, Self Identity and Anger

“I Believe we are all unique but not special.” The Human Perspective — New Lessons from Genesis

This post is written due to a personal necessity. One that has been imposed on me as it has been imposed on many others. It addresses the general violent confusion about the ever-growing alphabet salad, which we should all accept and adopt regardless of our beliefs and our inner and unexplained confusion. It is a topic built on slogans that we must all repeat regardless of the inner dissonance it creates. Most importantly, we should all agree that it is the most critical subject of our time, regardless of the small to nonexistent minority that it addresses.

When I was first introduced to the subject, the topic seemed unimportant. It has been presented to me by exposing me to the “pronounce” idea. As a first reaction, I categorize it as something that sounds like an adolescent tantrum that should be ignored. I had an inner need to distance myself from it. There was something wrong with this topic. One that I knew, based on first principles, was wrong. But I couldn’t put it in words or build relevant logic to defend it. Over time, and as the subject became more prominent, I realized that I was not alone in this predicament, differently from the extreme and well-articulated slogan-based argument made by the defenders of this madness. I was not prepared, neither had the time to formulate a genuine idea about a topic that until yesterday seemed insane.

The creation of the infinite and ever-growing alphabet salad is not built in that way by mistake. It allows extremely small minorities to group around a bigger group that merits its existence. Doing so allows this angry and confused minority to downplay the importance of the original movement and elevate their unjustified cause. They do so by eliminating any obstacle in its march forward and making us all forget why we gather here in the first place.

After a long and painful process of trying to understand what all this mess is about, I came to realize that we are missing an essential point in our social debate (If you can still call it a debate). As we were busy trying to understand what their arguments are all about, we took one of their fundamental ideas for granted — The idea that it is all one unified group. I believe the key to solving this hellish alphabet salad is connected to this point. And I hope I will surprise you in the way I will present it all.

To seriously start a conversation about the topic, I believe a separation needs to be established. I would divide people and the general population into three separate categories representing the totality of any population on Earth. The first is a category of people that know what they are and have a certain sexual attraction to another category of humans. The second is a group that is obsessed with who they are regardless of their sexual orientation, and the third group is constructed by confused people that have a deep need to feel special and are in desperate need of attention.

I decided to call the first group LGBH! The acronym is for Lesbian, Gays, Bi Sexual, a Heterosexual. The exclamation point, in the end, is there to make sure no more letters exist in this acronym. This group is addressing a question of sexual preference. They clearly know what they are and normally are relatively certain about whom they find attractive. There is no confusion on the subject. The conversation occupying this group concerns one’s preference for his private life, generally in his private bedroom. The main fight (won to a certain extent in big part of the Western world) have to do with equality of opportunities (not equity…and yes, it is not the same) and legal rights in our society.

It is clear to me that there are many different people with very different aims in this group. A statement that is true regarding any kind of group. Douglas Murray famously said there is nothing in common between gays, lesbians, and bisexuals. While it is undeniably true, this statement does not help address the philosophical issue. If we are to make sense of this absurd alphabet salad, the construction of logic and not a deconstruction is what we should aim for. Following this statement, I will repeat my point. This group has something in common (yes, including the heterosexual); they want their sexual business to be a private matter that does not affect their status, opportunities, and rights.

I will intentionally ignore Asexual people, as their statement is something along the line of “I’m sexually nothing.” A statement that by itself declares that there is nothing to look or talk about. After some research, I didn’t encounter any oppression, negation of rights, or lack of equality for people who were sexually nothing. The only visible place where this can be uncomfortable is in front of one own family, as some questions will emerge over time about the family’s expectations for relationship and family creation. But this does not justify in any way the need for a general social discourse.

The second and third groups make all the rest of the letters (as many as they are). These two groups require a delicate observation (and no, not for the sake of not offending them). The reason for it is that without a clear understanding of what separates them, they can seem like one group. The distinction is extremely important if we are to move forward in our understanding, as it separates between a small minority that needs to be addressed properly in our evolving society and a big majority that need to be ignored and put back in its place.

The second group can be categorized as people that genuinely believe they are something else. Not too long ago, it referred only Transgenders, but now we must also include people that think they have multiple souls, wolfs, giraffes, etc. (a development I believe is not doing any favor for the transgenders).

Their main concern has to do with “Who” they are (different from the first group that has a clear answer for it). This is a metaphysical question that needs to be addressed in that way. The belief that one is mentally different from what he physically is is rooted in the notion we have a separate soul and body. It is an old argument, and transgender people can be seen as an extreme branch of this line of tough. The development of the virtual world of social media didn’t help either, as it reinforced the idea that one can and is something else online from what one is in the physical world. This group contains a very small minority that, in any other socio-political subject, will not even get mentioned due to their size.

Many people I spoke with on the subject conclude the argument by saying it is a mental disorder called “Gender Dysphoria,” and on many levels, they are right. Regardless, having an argument circling the question of mental sanity does not help us progress constructively, as it presents us with the same conclusion on both sides. If it is a mental problem, what should we do about it? And if it is not a mental problem, what should we do about it? Do you see my point?

My approach to it is a bit different. I believe the problem is not with its categorization but with its socio-political implications. Let us assume it is a mental disorder. It seems to me we all have some, each and his own. While many people with mental problems will justifiably search for help, I find that for some others, the solution is not to try and solve their disorder but to allow the person to live with it to the fullest. After all, all great artists or historical figures could have been categorized with a certain level of mental disorder. The fact that they took it to the fullest of its extent made them great. Looking at the transgender issue makes me believe that our problem is not with this small minority and their life choices but with their requirements from society at large.

Taking this logic forward, I would say a clear line should be drawn. One that has to do with the effect an individual’s mental disorder has on society. It is true for all mental illnesses and should be the gold standard. The line should answer the question — does this mental illness hurt anybody except the person in question? If the answer is no, it shouldn’t be addressed socially. If it does, the following questions should be — In what way? And how can we mitigate the danger? It is important to ensure that when we ask the first question, we judge it by the standard of physical harm and not the mental or philosophical aspects of the question. After all, if an adult man is convinced he is a woman and is willing to go as far as castrating himself for it, it probably proves something about his own conviction. As long as this change is not inflicting physical harm on another and is not pushed on kids, I don’t see why to stop him.

Following some reflection on the second group, I truly believe that if the Transgender community would peacefully handle their business, accepting they are a small and very peculiar minority. I doubt it would ever arrive where it is currently. The idea that we should all accept it as normal is the root of the social problem with the second group. To understand it fully, we must stop and define the word “Normal .” Everything that happens only occasionally or represents a small minority of people in a society is the definition of something that is not normal. Normality is a word that represents repetition and/or the majority. Asking people to address transgenders as “normal” created dissonance and started an important conversation based on a lie. If we all accept that it is not normal but still significant enough to address, we would have a better chance of finding good solutions for this new phenomenon.

Eventually, the majority of the second group is searching for recognition in society (Not acceptance, yes, there is a difference). At the same time, they are very different from the LGBH!. Their goal seems to be the same as the first group — Ensuring they have equal opportunities and rights as humans. I believe this request is something the majority of the people will agree with. and an argument we can and should address honestly and uncomfortably.

Transgender’s in the second group have attached themselves to the LGB because they eventually search for the same status. It is different people searching for the same end. The problem with this approach is straightforward. Since we are talking about a different category of people, they will have different needs. Meaning that the solutions need to be addressed separately. Adding themselves to the LGB, they lost the capacity to address their need and rob the other group from addressing their struggle.

Asking society to change and accept a new phenomenon is one complex task. One that requires delicacy, patience, humility, and endurance. If society as a whole needs to change, it is probably not the society that is the problem but the way a person approaches society and its problems. Before passing to the third group, I will conclude by saying the that the two first groups have the legitimacy of their own existence by being who and what they are in the real world. Democracy aims to give everyone equal opportunity based on meritocracy, equal rights, and the freedom to be what you are in your private space. None of the group seems to violate these ideas. Transgender’s are a relatively new phenomenon that must be addressed in this context. I believe they have the right to ask us to find a solution for their needs in a way that does not make us abandon our principles.

Now, let us move to the main issue at hand. The third group is currently our main problem, bringing all the alphabet salad issue into the main stage and defending it as if their life depends on it. This group, which can sometimes look like the second group, but sounds completely different, is making this topic a hell of sentimental confusion. It is constructed from people I will categorize as confused, attention sicker lost children. That needs to reinforce the notion that they are special and unique. The way they go about it is through hateful, violent victimhood. One that does not come from knowledge, logic, understanding, or wish for a positive resolution. Deep inside, They understood that adults don’t have the time or the patience to hear noisy kids (especially if they are not their kids) and that demolishing morals and social fabrics is easier to do than building something new and better.

Their problem is mental, and it is a problem that needs to be addressed on a social level. It shouldn’t be ignored by itself, as it is a cry for help. It reflects a generation of lost kids. They are afraid, lost, and hurt. Afraid of the world and afraid to face the fact that in life, to arrive from nowhere to somewhere, you need to fail and give it all and that sometimes it is not enough. They are lost as nobody slaps them and shows them the right direction, leaving them to rely on arbitrary influencers that tell them what they want to hear for momentary fame. They are hurt as they have been explained that they can be whatever they want and discovered that they are nothing. They cry for help since nobody ever taught them that they do not need external validation to be themselves. And most importantly, They believe that rights are given by birth and not a privilege you acquire by obligations, making them feel entitled to ideas they cannot even explain. For them, pride does not represent a value that signifies inner greatness. It represents the right to scream and get attention. Respect for them is not something you earn by actions but deserve by being alive. Victimhood is their weapon, and we are all their oppressors.

To achieve their infinite war against everything and everyone, they created absurdity and extreme, mainly because it reflects their inner world. It allows them to take us all on the hellish trip that they are trying to escape from. They demand everything at the price of nothing, explaining to us that it is our duty. This group is the real problem we all have. It feeds on the weakness of the good people, our current politicians’ greed and our loving parents’ fears. They do not promote peace, humility, love, or the creation of a better society.

When this group realized that the Transgender movement required real actions (such as starting to take medications and pass castration), they took a step back and then two steps forward. The invention of all the rest of the letters in the alphabet salad is a manifestation of the need for attention that does not require anything from the people that claim it. The “Pronounce” topic that jump-started this insanity is a wonderful example. It requires society to twist and redefine its language and inner world without requiring anything from the person that claims it. It is a perfect solution for this group, as it gives them the freedom and flexibility to always be oppressed while getting rid of the need to practically do or prove anything.

This group is at the center of all the general social movements in our society. They are the noisy few that understood that they could jump on the wagon of an even smaller minority for the sake of promoting their anger. They don’t represent the good of the group they claim to be part of. They are there to be noisy, angry, and hateful. Preventing us from seeing the real issues we need to address. Distracting us from having a real debate about possible solutions.

I believe a separation need to be done between the LGBH!, the transgenders, and the lost kids. It is the only way we can get out of it and bring back some sanity to our discourse and our life. It requires a clear understanding of this separation and each group’s problems. Each needs our attention, and non is unimportant. Continue to play this game, heart everybody. From the LGBH! People that need to make sure that what they achieved in our democracy is secured, to the Transgender that needs our attention and solution for their existing problems. And most importantly, to the lost kids that are crying for help and truly need a responsible assembly of adults that will discuss how to fix their predicament in a peaceful and respectable way.

The Alphabet salad is the poster child of our sickness. Our loss of philosophy, fear of talking about hard subjects, and the destruction of our family and community structure. It is time to separate this salad and start to address our problems with the right words. I hope and believe this article will give some clarity and to others words to express their thoughts. We have a hard road ahead of us. Ignoring it or hoping it will pass by itself is a delusional lie at best. We have come a long way and built great things as individuals and as a society. We are standing at a crossroad, and a decision need to be made.

Disclaimer: Do not search for my books if you feel offended or unsafe by reading this article. However, leave a comment. I am searching for people that are willing to debate with me. After all, if you have never spoken with people that do not think differently than you, it probably means you never truly spoke with anybody.